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Scared my lady will cheat when I am away

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Question - (24 June 2006) 5 Answers - (Newest, 24 December 2006)
A male , *hauncullen writes:

i am 21 and in the army, i am due to deploy to iraq in november for seven months, my fiance tells me she will just have to cope, her previous relationships are riddled with her cheating, but she has not with me yet, i am scared and insecure?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006):

I agree with Irish.

You would be far better to leave this women before going off to Iraq. You don't want to spend your days there thinking whether or not your "lady" is with someone else, because, quite honestly, she might well be. We get an unusually high amount of questions from women who are cheating on their men who are in the army.

Do it, leave her. If not for yourself, do it for your country - you have more important things to think about, i.e. trying to survive in a country experiencing a vicious bloody civil war than worrying over some women.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006):

Shauncullen.............I hate to tell you this, but if she has cheated in the past on her previous partners........then chances are she is cheating on you and you just don't know it . And while your in Iraq, she will 100% cheat on you.........she has done it in the past, right ? If I was you , depending how long you have been with her , and if you don't have any kids with her..........I would bail out . She canot be trusted . I feel bad for you .

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A female reader, matron +, writes (24 June 2006):

matron agony auntShe will just have to cope!!! If i was her i'd be dreading it, i'd be so worried about your safety and miss you like crazy. If she's been faithful like you say she has dont worry about what might happen before it does, you will need to stay focused while you're away you wont need the added stress of niggling doubts.

It's a while til november, enjoy the relationship and see how it goes,by the time you go away you're relationship may have moved onto the level of trust that you need. Every relationship is based on trust, if you dont have that then its doomed to fail. Live for today, enjoy your life and try to look on the positive side.

Take care of yourself, good luck in Iraq and stay safe x

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A female reader, Smiler +, writes (24 June 2006):

Smiler agony auntHey Shawn

You poor thing :o( here's you going away to serve you queen and country this is the last thing you wanna be stressin about right now... personally i agree with irish why are you still with this girl when you have your doubts whether she will stay faithful to you, i mean i have always said if you don't have trust in a relationship you don't have anything... trust is ment to be the strongest bond and is exactly what keeps you true to the person you are ment to be in love with... what is wrong with the women how can she wanna cheat on a squaddie lol i thought all women thought along with firemen they were as sexy as hell lol :o) but anyhow back to your prob i would sit her down and have a good heart to heart with her tell her she's making you feel very insecure and emotinally scared.. and if she loved you then she should respect your feelings.... good luck in iraq babe

I hope my advice was of some help to you sweetie :o) good luck ok... If you ever need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on or maybe a little more advice, truely i'm always here for you ok :o)

You Take Care Babe And Good Luck X

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2006):

I am wondering why on earth you are even engaged to a woman you can't trust, Shaun. Not a healthy, good way to begin a committed, married life, someday. Hun, there is nothing you can do to stop her from cheating while you are deployed and gone. It'll come down to her character, and her relationship values. If you are concerned about this, this might be telling you and she are not compatible. You have a choice...can worry yourself sick over which could distract you from the importance of your duties in Iraq.

Or just learn to put your faith in her and trust her. Best to have a talk with her and come clean with your concerns. You may just need reassurances from her this will not happen. You know her best...is she up to the challenge of remaining faithful to you? Good luck dear

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