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writes:I'm just looking for a bit of reassurance really, I'm 18 and I lost my virginity about a week ago now, I know all about STD's and pregnancy (to be honest, how can anyone not know, the amount of sex ed we get these days) and I'm very sensible about not rushing into sex and taking care of myself, so this isn't the usual naive sort of question about sex although it may sound that way... The thing is I'm terrified of getting pregnant, I've been trying to ignore the thoughts niggling away at the back of my mind because I've been on the pill since last June and I've never missed one, I take them at the same time everyday and they have about the same probability for protection as condoms don't they? I know they don't protect against STD's but I know that neither me or my boyfriend have any. It's just, if I got pregnant now, it's right up there with the worst possible things that could happen to me right now and that's why I'm scared about it. Is there anything anyone can say to let me know that I'm probably alright? Because I should be, I just can't ignore the little doubts, the little 'what ifs' at the back of my mind. People who are on the pill have sex without condoms all the time and don't get pregnant don't they? My friend has been doing it for over a year and she hasn't even had a little scare yet. Sigh. Help??? xxx
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 You are fortunate to have waited to have sex AFTER you got on the pill for awhile. I was 18 and had sex a month before and got pregnant. Long story (sigh...) anyway, use condoms or get a diaphragm if you want EXTRA protection.The choices are out there, use them if you want to feel safer. I use condoms/KY jelly AND the pill. Best wishes, Gena
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): THE OLD WAZOO!!!!
My god u did it again with the tea this time.....
Yes love getting back to your question, birdy is right any antibiotics can affect the pill so always ask your doc about it if you go on them, Im a mum and always tell mine to use condoms but they are boys!!!!!God help me when my daughter is older!!!!!She will be on everything ME NO GRANNY!!!!!! TAKE CARE HUN LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol, thanks guys. This has been very helpful. xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 March 2008):
 The kind I used came with a tube inserter, you shot some up the old wazoo just before you have intercourse.
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reader, sexcbex +, writes (14 March 2008):
 I am also scared to death about getting pregnant as i am only 17 but i know there is a slim chance of that happening as i take the contraceptive injection. i havn't had a period since December and have had some really weired feelings in my lower abdomen, heart burn, feeling sick and terrible back ache. I think because i am scared about getting pregnant i am paranoid and maybe all the signs are in my head. What i am trying to say is that if you are scared about getting pregnant that is all you will think about i know it is hard but try to forget about it and if all still isn't well pop into your doctors and he/she maybe able to help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI went on Mandy's link for spermacide but now I'm a little confused as to how its used, I thought it was just put on before insertion and thats that??
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (14 March 2008):
 I'm just going to mention again that if you go on antibiotics or any other medication, check with your doctor if it will affect the effectiveness of you contraceptive pill. I have always told my kids that they should consider using condoms until they marry, just as a precaution to protect their future fertility. There are so many diseases that can cause sterility, not to mention other problems, and it's a fairly sound policy that you won't kick yourself afterwards for, worse-case-scenario. Hey, can't help myself, I'm a Mom...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 March 2008):
Not messy at all, this is what I used when I was spacing my children and I never had an "accident", worked really well. With you being on the pill as well I would think you would be worry free if you used both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Hi babes
I found you another link on the foam or jellyhttp://www.hnhu.org/content/view/67/75/
Hope this helps LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Holz +, writes (14 March 2008):
Hiya,
U r right there is the smallest chance that you could get pregnant but the odds are like 10 - 1, its like say there was 100 people that took the pill and all of them were having sex without using a condom about 2 of them would get pregnant, Ive been on and off the pill fo the last two years and i have never been pregnant. Stop worrying yourself hun because that when problems start to happen. Just think of it as you'll cross that bridge when you come to it. All i have to say really is dont worry because if you are taking the pill correctly then nothing should go wrong and if your still worried double up on the protection and use a condom a well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwouldn't a spermicide foam be really messy? i haven't heard of a spermicide 'foam' before. where could i get it? xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 March 2008):
If you don't want to use a condom you could use a spermacide foam, then you should have peace of mind.
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (14 March 2008):
 Hi! What made me feel safe from pregnancy scares was knowing my cycle and avoiding having sexual intercourse during my ovulation period. Then when I did have sex, I would always make sure my partner used a condom!
(I talk in the past, because I don't worry any more: I'm happily married and want children whilest I'm still young!)
You can get advice on knowing your body from family planning clynics that also offer advice on the Billings Method and similar stuff. Just look up Billings Method on the net and you'll find your local agent.
God bless and good luck!
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reader, sexi  +, writes (14 March 2008):
 Hi
If you take the pill as it is supposed to be taken and dont miss/skip it then you should be fine. If it is really bothering you you should use condoms which provide further protection.Stop stressing if you dont have a reason to be.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Hunny
Your chances of getting pregnant are 1% out of 99% and you are taking them all correct, And if you did become pregnant on the pill (WHICH IS UNLIKELY) You wouldnt harm the baby...Say you were pregnant and you took the morning after pill that is a very very high dose of the pill and you have to take that within 72 hrs to be sure it will work, Thats just a for instance hun ok not that you will be having to do that....The chances of you getting pregnant are low, to put your mind at rest hunny use a condom as well for now untill you become more secure and are feeling more comfortable, Thats double protection....TAKE CARE WITH LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (14 March 2008):
There is an old expression about taking precautions. It is "belt and braces". Basically it means that you are best doubling up on precautions when it is really important.
Regardless of the STD issue if you take the pill AND use condoms you are making the risk of unplanned pregnancy that much smaller. Nothing is a perfect guarantee except perhaps surgery and that is a bit drastic.
From your question and post, you are clearly a mature young lady and thinking about these things in advance is a good thing. You should be aware that if you are ever on other medication there is a risk of your pill being less effective. When a doctor prescribes any other medication, make sure you ask about possible impact on the effectiveness of the particular pill you are taking because it does vary from pill to pill.
The link that Mandy7 sent you also has excellent information.
Good luck and so long as you take all possible precautions you should be okay. If at the end of the day and despite all precautions you still get pregnant then it was meant to be and you will find plenty of support from the Aunts and Uncles on this site if you need it.
All the best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank u mandy, that site was very informative. if the percentage of effectiveness for the pill is 99% doesnt that mean that i will get pregnant one out of a hundred times? but... it is a very high percentage isn't it? Because the pill causes periods at a certain time, does that mean if i got pregnant when i was say.. half way through a pack that i wouldn't have a period when the pack runs out? And wouldn't taking the pill once I had conceived kill the baby? xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Hi Hunny
Im going to send you a link on all contraception so you can have a good read, your very bright and mature so your doing all the right things if you do want to be safer comdoms as well as the pill... But the pill is safe but there is an implant that last up to three yrs take a look and see if you think that would suit you hunnyhttp://www.thinkcontraception.ie/whats-right-for-you/female.asp
I hope this has helped take care with lots of love n hugs MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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