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writes:I hardly have any friends and when I think I do, I end up losing them. I end up realizing that none of them are good friends. I have tried so many different types of youth clubs and activities to try to make friends. But I never ever do! I'm not a quiet person at all. I'm very out going and bubbly. But everytime I try to crack a joke to make people laugh or greet other teenagers to make friends with them, they just stare at me as if I'm a complete weirdo. Nowadays I just stay at home and hardly every go out. I only ever go out with my parents. And when I do go out with them I always see people my age hanging around with each other and having a laugh while I'm trapped indoors all the time. I hate that! I'm so left out and isolated. I have tried so hard to make friends but I never do because we never have anything in-common. I'm soooo alone. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): You cant just not make friends. Your going to stay lonely if you dont.
But if your try too hard people will notice and wont want to be your friend. Be true yourself ad true to who you are :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthx 4 d advice guys. Guess I gotta try NOT to make friends!Only clinging on will make them hate me! Thx!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Plz do not mind me saying this but dont u think ur trying too hard? Be true to urself. However u are. Dont be forced to behave like someone ur not. If u do dat and make even a million friends it doesnt matter coz d moment u show ur true self they will leave u.
Hang in there n dont be desperate to make friends or u will come across as clingy and no one wants dat. Be chilled out and u willl draw ppl in. Hold onto them thimking they are ur last shot at having friends will only make u lose them.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (14 December 2010):
"I have tried so hard to make friends" This is your first problem. Trying to get people to like you.
Do you like you??? If your answer is yes...Why do you care what others think? You know what you have to offer? so...the flame does not go to the moth. If you are a flame, they will come to you. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2010): Hey, i totally understand where you are coming from. I really do honey. And ya know with how i have/do feel/felt, all i ever looked forward to was playing a video games for my own fun and online gaming for friends. It is not the best way to cope but it is what i do and the majority of my friends are a lot older then i of 15.
You can always get a job too, its good for you to make money and will help you in the future and you can meet new other people. Make friends with co-workers
Or you can always do volunteer work at an animal shelter or local events. Theres always tons of people.
I feel your pain so your not alone okay :)
I hope ive somewhat helped.
xoxo
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reader, jrns96  +, writes (14 December 2010):
this is going to sound a tad bit harsh, but please understand that i am saying this with all the love and affection i can possibly muster. if they do not find u funny, try not to crack too many jokes. keep it to subtle sarcasm, and short quips. try not to act out anything in exaggerated movements or say anything crude (words for genitals or degrading remarks about races). try not to be talking loudly at anyone when you're speaking as that tends to irritate people. im not saying not to be yourself, just tone down the bubblyness and volume, k? and don't worry, i'll be your friend,for what that's worth ;)
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