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*isa001
writes:I have found a new man and he is perfect he gets on great with my kids, he tells me he loves me after 2 weeks being together my heart tells me he is the one but my head is telling me different, i have been hurt very badly in the past and i don't want it to happen again. am i making a problem when there isnt one or am i just being silly. he is very loving asks for kisses and cuddles when he comes to see me and i never use to get them i am scared i am going to push him away please help Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2007): You have only been seeing this guy for two weeks and already you think he is perfect and the one? No wonder you are afraid you will push him away.
I know you are excited to meet such a seemingly nice guy, but calm down, and step back a bit or you will scare yourself and him silly.
Don't imagine the wedding dress and the happy home so soon, just concentrate on being friends first and having some fun, take things at a steady pace and really get to know who he is and what he stands for.
No one is perfect, if he has 80% of the qualities you are looking for in a man, then that is as about as good as it gets....do you know what it is that you want in a man and what makes you have those loving feelings, if you don't, it is time to take your inventory.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (25 February 2007):
 I think instinct is very important when you first meet someone. I'm just not sure from your post what your instinct is. You call him perfect. Was that your first impression or one you've come to think of? Equally was your first impression that there was something missing or is that something that's come out over time?
Regardless of which of the above is true to you the important thing to is wonder if he can make you and your kids happy. If he can do that then go for the relationship but take it slowly until you're sure what you want from it.
CD
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