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writes:Hello, I met a man through friends who is very kind and respectful. We have hung out many times in our friend group and have good conversations. He asked for my number and we have been texting. I know many times, people just want a "texting buddy" and will text for hours and never plan a date or meeting up. How do I seem interested, but not too interested? Is it a good idea to limit the texting? I have been reading a dating book and it suggested I keep the texting short. We both got out of relationships a few months ago, so I am happy to take it slow- I just don't want to have conversations over text daily with someone I never meet up with again. I much preferred us talking in person. Thank you so much!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 March 2016):
 If you want him to do the planning well then the best thing to do is to sit back and wait to see what he does next. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the help. We've been talking for a few days now. He's initiated the conversations and has suggested things for us to do together since we have similar interests. He keeps saying "it's a plan!" But never actually sets a day or time. He keeps talking about "when we get together next". I am wondering if he just thinks of me as a friend or if he's hesitating to plan yet because he's out of town this weekend. I don't mind initiating later on, but right now I want him to plan the first date.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (2 March 2016):
 Hi
What do mean by text buddy?
If you are texting every day?
More than once a day?
If you want him as a boyfriend and he's not asked you on a date yet, I would advise cooling off a bit and see what he does
Good luck x
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (2 March 2016):
Its a good sign that he has asked for your number, that's the first step. Now you have both been talking that's great also. But I think you should be just upfront and ask him does he want to hang out?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 March 2016):
 I don't agree with "game-playing" when it comes to dating. Yes, seeming to eager, too pushy can be a turn off, but knowing and showing what you want shouldn't be.
If you WANT to go out on dates instead of being text buddies, why not suggest an outing?
Do you know his interests/hobbies? Is it something you can partake in?
Is there a nice museum exhibit you might both find interesting? a new coffee shop or restaurant? Then maybe suggest to meet up for lunch or something that doesn't sound OVERLY "date-like". Make the date a few hours, not an all day event. If you both have fun, maybe HE will suggest the next outing. If he is only looking for a text buddy it will be easy to spot.
Showing a little interest is not making you look desperate.
Or you can keep sitting on your hands waiting on him to make the first move.
It's your life, why not live it? Instead of waiting for it to begin?
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