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Relationship Help... PLEASE!

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Question - (31 July 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 31 July 2012)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I find pictures of other woman on my boyfriends emails... some that he secretly took on his phone....

not only that... But i found some photos of him wearing all girls clothes... several of them...

What does all of this mean?

Please help...

we have been together for 4 years... and I just feel hurt and heartbroken by the first part... and completely confused by the second....

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A female reader, BondGirl72 United States +, writes (31 July 2012):

BondGirl72 agony auntYou need to tell him exactly what you told us, and ask him what it's all about. You also need to explain your feelings.

Some will tell you the naked pictures are ok and that they are no different than porn. I'm not going to tell you that. I don't think there is any reason good enough for a man to have pictures of naked women on his phone. Just my opinion, but I have a very high opinion of men and I like for them to live up to it. I think naked pics on a phone are not only crude but tacky.

Also, I think it's all about what you want to handle/deal with when you're in a relationship with someone. You may question him about this and he may have a great excuse, but it still may not be a good enough excuse to ease your mind. At that point you are going to have to give him an ultimatum (which he may or may not adhere to) or leave (because a lot of people won't change).

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2012):

This doesn't sound good.

The only time I've ever heard of guys dressing as a woman is in the transvestite/drag sense, which often means the guy is either gay, or bi sexual.

The women in his emails well, (IF) it turns out he's living or planning to live a trans-gender lifestyle, the pictures may well be an obsession thing with the female form, rather than a perverted thing.

I think you have no other choice but to confront him about this because its clearly a big thing for a girlfriend to discover, and certainly needs addressing.

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