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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little bit more than 3 years. We started off pretty well until we moved in together, he loves me and I love him to death. We always fought regardless of him moving over to my house but i just feel miserable. His temper skyrocketed and he doesnt care about how i feel anymore. He is always rolling his eyes at me when we talk. Because of all this i check his chats and phones because im insecure with him.He says he will not reassure me. Im getting so paranoid because of how he treats me. He always tells me that playing that game is his only escape and it makes him happy. He also tells me that he likes talking to this girl more than me and he wants to just sit home all day and talk to her. I saw this in his game chat and we had a talk about it. He doesnt understand how bad he hurt me. He then tells me that he doesnt know what to do anymore and that he cant break up with me because i will just cry and cry and he hates this relationship.I tell him that I love him and he tells me im lying. We are both really bored in this relationship but i cant do anything about it because he only wants to play games. I offered to play with him thinking that it will change something but he bluntly says NO. I feel like he has something to hide from me. He says that the game makes him more happy than i do. He also flirts a lot but he claims that he doesnt consider it flirting. Saying things like "i just want to come home all day and talk to you" and "3" and things even worse than that isnt considered flirting. I feel so hurt but i cant do anything about it. We always try to talk it out but he never lets me and everything i say he just says im lying.If i dont say anything back to him, then i am ignoring him. If i say something to him, he says im wrong and lying. So what does he want me to do. He says im clingy and he says he hates this relationship but he doesnt want to end it. I feel that the only reason why he wants to end this relationship is because he wants to play games and flirt with whoever he wants. I really need some help. Im very sensitive and emotional. There is absolutely no one that i can talk to. I feel so depressed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2010): Let me guess, WOW. My best friend spends way too much time in that game too. I've given up. Sounds like you should do the same. He doesn't appreciate you, or the effort you're making. A relationship has to be mutual in order to work. He obviously is not interested in your relationship anymore.
The biggest problem I see is that you're living together. This presents a bigger problem because one of you will have to leave.
If you've resorted to checking his chat logs, you already don't trust him. Once that trust is broken, I'm not sure it can ever really come back.
As I mentioned earlier, my best friend of 25 years is addicted to WOW. I've gotten new friends because I'm sick of hearing about is lvl 80 rogue, and the new piece of gear he just got. I'll be there for him when he eventually realizes he's wasting his life, but until then...
Cut your ties to him. He's told you he wants to break up, he's just trying to make you do it so he doesn't have to be the bad guy, even though he is.
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