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writes:I have been with my partner for 7 years, I was 16 when we got together, now I'm 23, and I am starting to feel that I want to go and explore life. I think I still love him, but I feel I've missed out on a whole part of my life. We seem to have less and less in common, we both want different things in our life, and we hardly spend any time together. The problem is we are both at uni, we live together. I think we could do with a break, or at least to maybe move apart for a while so we can start to appreciate each other again, but I don't know if this is a good idea, and even if it is, I don't think he would be happy about it. What do I do?Thanks
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (25 March 2009):
Unfortunately between the ages of 16 and 23 you have grown up and that means you are a different person and want different things.
It's coming up to the end of the year for you so rather than pour a load of stress on to both of you by trying to move out while all your essays are due and breaking contracts and losing damage deposits, why not just ride it out till after easter when you can hand everything in, move home and then you can split up with him and have summer to think it over.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): you should be more concerned about what makes you happy,not him. honey you are so young,it makes perfect sense that you want to explore life and feel you've missed out on things. you have.and it's not at all late to cover that gap.a time apart would definitely be best for the two of you.if you see that you don't miss him or love him or feel like you need him anymore, then it's time to break up with him.
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (25 March 2009):
 It is normal to get wandering feet at your age and want to have some independence. However, if you wish to continue with the relationship then perhaps you need to speak to him about doing more things separately - you can live together but still have independent interests, travels etc.
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reader, Jason means Healer +, writes (25 March 2009):
Well, variety is the spice of life.
Blow a fresh breath on him fresh from the lips of Cupid my dear.
A change is as good as a break.
Oh, sweetie; I know ya wanna do the whole "till death us do part thing..." but your VITALITY is giving you sum innit?
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