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writes:I have met a guy online and have been talking to him for two months. He lives 500 miles away. He said he is interested in me, but doesn't ask anything about me. He keeps asking for nude pics and I always say no. Once I asked him if seeing me nude will determine if this relationship will go further or if he does not like me when he sees me. His answer was "better to find out now than later, so we are not wasting each others time". He also stated that he is not looking for perfection. How should I take his answers?Pulling Hair Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): come on stop being naive...
you're old enough to know this guy is a waste of your time. why do you continue talking to him? its obvious he's an internet perv.
delete and block him.
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reader, Ms.Helper  +, writes (8 May 2009):
 If he is truly interested in you why does it matter what you look like naked, or at all?
You could always be friends, if you're not attracted to each other & actually have something in common; but by the sound of it he doesn't respect you, he doesn't care about you & you have nothing in common.
What this pervert is asking you is unacceptable & you should cut off all contact with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo my online guy contacted me again. We have our long conversation then get into the more explicit nature of our chat. Then he ask to see me (naked pictures) again. I say no. I figure he can get or located naked picture from the internet. So why does he keep asking me. Oh did I mention he sent naked picture of himself to me first. Does that change the interest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): He seems not as serious as you are, have you ever seen eachother on webcam? , it's a bit ofa jump sending a naked photo to a stranger
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): He's out of order. Nobody should ask for anything that intimate. Think how you would feel if someone you met in real life asked you that. Just because he is at a distance is no excuse.
Find someone better. It wouldn't be hard!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): stay right away from that loser.
He's probably some fat slob with no life who spends his life on the internet looking for sleazy photos because he can't get anyone else.
Or he's some psycho and you don't even want to go there.
I wouldn't even bother giving him a choice or sending even a regular photo. He sounds like a crackpot.
Stay away from him! He's a weirdo.
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reader, siiLviia  +, writes (7 May 2009):
Dont do it! Do you want nude pictures of you floating around the Internet, where anyone could see them? He's just a jerk and he is not interested in something real or serious. If anything, he just wants casual sex... that is not good for you sweetie. You need a nice guy, not some stupid loser who just wants to see you naked. Respect yourself and have him respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): In a way, he's right, you two do need to know what the other looks like before meeting in person. If you don't find the person in the pictures attractive, you probably won't find the person attractive IRL.That said, he sounds pretty sleazy if he keeps asking for nudes and you say "no". I'd stay away from him myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2009): I agreed with satindesire. A non-nude photo is more than enough. He will not be the guy you want.As for long distance relationship, it is hard. Not to say if it starts off online. Love will die, it doesn't matter how great it is at first.We need to find things to do but it takes two person for the relationship to work.I been through online relationship before. We are doing perfectly fine. When time passed, things goes wrong and there isn't much we can do for each other when we are physically far.I end up go through hard time alone. I am not saying online will not work but I would suggest getting a local person. That is much better.
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