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writes:PLEASE, PLEASE HELP. I'm hurting so much.I split up with my ex about 7 months ago and I can't cope. I still love him but he's now seeing someone else. It hurts so much, still. We split up cuz we had alot of work commitments but he still found time to meet someone new only a month later? even though we wer trying to start afresh. I told him that I couldn't speak to him or see him again cuz he had betrayed me. I saw him the other week, cuz I went round to collect the last of my things. we haven't spoken for 6 months. I couldn't handle it. After he handed me my things I made my excuses and left without making any effort to talk to him. I then went to the Ladies toilet and cried me eyes out and was all shaky. Should I make the effort to be friends? after all, there is no hope for me to be with him if we are not even in contact? Even as I write this I feel shaky and a lump in my throat. I recently saw pic of him and his new gf on the net, it makes me physically want to retch. The thought of her lying in my side of the bed etc still makes me want to cry. It has been so long. I've been out with my friends having a good time etc but I can't seem to get past this. I've been on dates with guys and started seeing someone ekse but it didn't feel right.Should I tell him how I feel? Should I move on? Please help me :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): I'm weeping for you, literally. I miss my ex more than I could ever have imagined and it's been a very short time. We keep contact since were still in school, but even thinking of him and another girl... I burst into tears and start heaving. This seems dramatic but I'm completely serious.All I can suggest is to KEEP YOURSELF BUSY! I know of no better remedy. Do something fun, just you and the girls, as often as possible. Followup if this helped? I hope with all my heart that this helped you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): You are in the midst of the worst. Dont back track now. You will get past this. Dont think about it. Dont let yourself. Do not go backwords. It will get better.
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (10 May 2009):
 Me and my ex broke up 7months ago ... we were suppose to get married, but his family and religious views were against me ... so he got a new gf that his family loves cause she has the same religion and even tho he is not happy, he is w her and not w me.
It still hurts .. and Im sure it will always hurt.
We have not seen each other or spoken in those 7months and believe me YOU DO NOT WANNA BE FRIENDS ... you dont want to knwo what is he doing and with who .. you need to separate yourself from him completely and go on with your life. Do whatever you want, be with people, make yourself happy with whatever makes you happy. Think only about yourself and about what is good for you. Someone will come around and make you happy and loved again ... and who knows, maybe it will be him .. maybe not. But don't be all sad and down because of this.
I know its hard ... I am going through it right now ... but I just met someone, that maybe, just maybe will make me happy again after 7months of graving over someone ... and thats what counts ...
Love will find you wherever you are !!!!!
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