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writes:Hi, 5 months ago I came out of a bad 6 month relationship, My first. It left me on antidepressents and shattered. Now 5 months on, I want to move on but no one is interested. My previous relationship nerly lost me all my friends and everyone one knows me wont go any ferther than friends, Many stay away anyway. I thought I found someone I wanted to persue into a date, I started to like her and she was friendly and playful around me but ofcause my friends warned her about me infront of me. I just wanted to run away and again no one wants to date me, Everyone stays away or makes up an excuse. What do I do? I am a truly nice guy, I never hurt anyone, I am just different. I think differently, act differently and look different. Male with long purple hair. However nomater how nice I try to be and however I look, No one ever considers me a possability. Please help. Im all alone.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (25 March 2012):
 sounds like your friends were shallow, why do they still have it in for you and want to sabotage things.?
yes it can be fun to look different but when it comes to sex people tend to buy into illusions initially and with long purple hair you are limiting yourself in a big way. it also depends on how good it accutally looks. you can use cheap dye and it can look skanky or you can get it done professionaly and it could look really good, but then again purple is a very unmasculine colourfor hair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2012): I suggest that you should find new friends, who don't care about the way you look, the way you act or speak. if you can't, maybe just stay away from those who don't accept you for who you are.
I've been in this situation before, nobody cares to get to know me, so I'm kind of close-minded and only open up to people online because there are a lot of nice people out there on the internet, but the thing is they are so far away from you.
about find a lover part, I promise you that someday, someone will come, and this person is your soul mate. at the moment, do something fun and meaningful!
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reader, natasia +, writes (25 March 2012):
 Well, it is the purple hair that is doing it, and you know that.
It won't matter how nice you are - if you are making a very strong statement about looking different from everyone, then it is probable that the 'herd' won't accept you. I'm sorry - that's just the way it is.
I think you need to think about why you feel you are different, and why you need to mark that visually. I'm sure it is a known phase that some adolescents go through - it is quite common. But if it is making you upset and meaning you are isolated, then maybe you need to consider whether it is worth the price you are paying ...
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