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writes:This is yet another annoying teacher-student-love question. But really, this is getting out of hand for me. I had this teacher in year 7 (Mr S I'll call him) and by the end of that year obviously I started 'fancying' him. I had him the next year as well and that feeling continued. Year 9 I had a different teacher, but still kept some contact with Mr S. But during that year I got over him and went out with a different guy, that ended ages ago though. So last September I found I had Mr S for the next 2 years for my GCSE's, and straight away I thought 'I have to concentrate on not fancying him again!'. The feeling didn't return, though a different feeling did occur. I'm not obsessed with him like a used to be, I see him for him now, not as I did before, as a teacher, but now as a person/man. I can't help but feel a need to see him and I unwillingly smile when he talks to me. Whenever I'm around him it's like it doesn't matter who's listening or watching, but I can be myself and not have to pretend. I can't describe it. But something wierd happened the last lesson I had with Mr S, it's wierd, scary but also kinda exciting - he was reading something out in a wierd voice (he does a lot of wierd voices!) and I just felt completly turned on by him! I could feel like a sexual impulsive rush through me, if that even makes sense and I just can't get it out of my head! Also, I'm really not sure (unlike most girls on here on) but I'm sensing something wrong with him. Like he doesn't want to talk to me but he can't help it, and lately he's just given up trying me thinks. I dunno, I could be imagining it. But please no insultive advice please. If you read this thinking 'what a complete div! Stupid idiot girl', then why did you carry on reading... or in fact read it in the first place?!?! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for the advice, has helped a bit :)
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reader, rcn  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 For a girl your age to "crush" on a teacher is natural. This is because girls find attraction in the authority figures who are in positions of impacting their lives.
His keeping a distance is knowing anything other than a professional teacher/student relationship could be the end of his career. Also, your "not" being yourself around him is like writing down how much you like him on your homework and turning it in.
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reader, Emajayne  +, writes (31 January 2009):
 Nice ending. i don't think ur a stupid idiot girl. Let me tell u a story. There is this teacher in my school...called Mr. L. Every single girl, no jokes, who has had him has fancied the pants off him at one point or another. This one girl however was completely obsessed. She actually thought she had a chance. I think its just that young girls are waay more mature than young boys and are automatically attracted to an older and wizer handsom version of what you want. If he was younger and not in a position of authority...almost like a parent, i would say u go get him! But since he is obviously recognizing ur feelings for him, teachers have a way of knowing things, i suggest u try and stop feeling the things u are about him. Im not saying for u to stop thinking hes hot, or he's any less of the person he is to u. Just...try and find those qualities in someone that isnt off limits.
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