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Performance anxiety, afraid to have sex again?

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Question - (15 May 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 16 May 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, *eityxx writes:

Hello lads... About one week ago I started to date a f*cking awesome chick, awesome as stunning good looking and as personality. Yesterday night I went to her friends house with a pal ( who was dating her best friend ), had a few shots of tequila... started making out and then we went upstairs in her bedroom. We had foreplay for about one hour, where I had several erections... but when I was at the point to put on the condom the idiot downstairs went limp. I even went to bathroom, started masturbating and tried to put it on still no luck, guess because I was the most nervous person in the planet. I hate myself with all my heart, as she was amazing... and when thinking I missed a chance like that I feel sick of me. Now I get thoughts that I'll never be able to have sex again... without having a long relationship and talking the whole story with the girlfriend and finally manage to do something. Only like this... but with new fresh partners.. I think I'm screwed for life, and I hate me. I almost forgot, umm, this was the second time having sex... the first time with a partner the same problem came up, but the second day I had no problems whatsoever and made it with her for a couple of times. I'm 18 in two months if it matters.

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A male reader, deityxx United Kingdom +, writes (16 May 2011):

deityxx is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Yep, I've informed myself about the troubles that alcohol can bring too after this happened. Well I think I had about 5 big shots of tequila, like double :/ And I come with an update too... just finished talking with her :D We've talked for about four hours... and the convo went even better than before this issue happened.. she didn't seem a tad bit upset, I so totally fuckin' like her :D

The only fear I have is that of disappointing her next time... maybe I should talk with her about me and my fear of rubbers lol? And maybe find other ways of protecting ourselves... @_@

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011):

if you had foreplay for around an hour then its most likely you just needed a rest. ive been in the same situation before too and was worried. unfortunately we cant just order him up when we want too. next time dont have as much foreplay and you will be able to preform no problem

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011):

How much did you have to drink? That has happened to me before, me and my girlfriend were completely hammered and we were fooling around for about 45 minutes and I couldn't get an erection for the life of me, tried to put on a few condoms, did everything but nothing ever came of it. Alcohol can make it hard for you to get an erection because it limits the blood flow to your genital region.

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