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writes:When I was younger I met someone in school. And I fell for him so hard. Even though I was only nine at the time I thought that he was the one for some reason. He was cute smart funny well mannered and I had that feeling inside me that I felt weak every time I saw him. Every time I looked into his eyes I didn't want to stop. He had some kind of hold on me. And things kept happening to make us see each other more at that time and I thought that it was fate or something. I’ve never stopped liking him. But I never truly got to know him as well as I wanted to. I loved everything about him but now I’ve seen another side to him on a networking website. In the status part he writes dirty lyrics and other things that don't make sense. He also kind of flirts around with some of his friends. I’m choosing to believe that this isn't really him and that he's only doing it to fit in. but I can't be sure. I don't know who he is anymore. But then I’m thinking that I shouldn't just decide what kind of guy he is biased on his profile. Someone told me that he did like me but when I tried to message him about it he didn't even answer so I left it at that. For some reason we've always had a communication problem we were nervous around each other when we saw each other but that was a while back now. I don't know for sure if he ever liked me. I still can't stop thinking about him. People keep telling me that he needs to grow up and I need to get over it but there's a big part of me that just doesn’t want to let go. If I saw him right now I’d probably forget everything that ever happened and I’d just want him. I’ve really tried to not like him and to keep him of my mind but nothing seems to work. Just when I start to take my mind of him something always happens to make me think about him all over again. Please help me I just don't know what to do. I need your honest opinion.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (10 June 2010):
 Romany has hit it right on the head! I can only reiterate what she's written. You've GOT to turn the page on your life. Will you be a slave to this idealized image of him that you've realized DOESN'T exist, or will you allow YOURSELF to grow up and beyond the time when you were attracted to him?
And why should ANYONE have that much control over your life? That's a very vulnerable way to live, and a surefire way to ruin your life for good. He is not the only guy out there! There are 6 billion people in this earth! Time to let go of the security blanket of your childhood, and time to go stake your claim as an ADULT.
You need to grow up, but I think you can!
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reader, romany +, writes (10 June 2010):
 This is the trouble when you put someone so high up on a pedestal, cos us human have a knack of falling off.I figure you've known him almost 10years, cos your age and when you knew him from, but your knowing of him in that time is very limited, you've worshipped him for afar, and never really conversed, so you've seen him through rose coloured specs and all that, but he is now going through testosterone prime, he is nothing like he was at 9 years old.Just leave him to get on with it, get yourself out, and find someone who you have a mental and physical attraction to, I guarantee, when you find someone new who you have an attraction with, this guy wont dominate your thoughts anymore.And if you are still thinking now, that he is your destiny, then just remember, if fate has always brought you together, then it will again, but dont stop living in the hope it happens soon.Goodluck hun, x
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