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writes:I was with my ex boyfriend for a year and 3 months, i tried to convince myself it was a good relationship, but if im honest, i was treated awful, and cheated on, when we split up, everything was fine, and i felt free, and a long term friend (boy) and me started talking properly again, i used to REALLY like him, and the feelings came back, and about a month and a half after me and my ex split up, we decided to give it a go, everything was amazing, i thought he was amazing, and i was so happy again, and then a few days later, i saw my ex, he was overly nice to me, and it annoyed me, it reminded me of all the crap he has caused in my life, and now i've started to gain paranoia with my new boyfriend, my head is saying things, when i know they are not true, because he really is such a decent lad, and i really want to be with him, i know this, but my head is trying to convince me otherwise, as if im too scared to admit feelings anymore, how do i stop this? its started to scare me as i don't want it to carry on, because it might push my new boyfriend away, and i don't want that.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (25 February 2011):
Not every person on earth is a cheater. And you have to tell this yourself. Your new boyfriend is not to be punished for the things your ex did. And you deserve to be happy with your boyfriend. Which seems to be what you want now. When your mind starts playing tricks on you, remember all the things you have with you boyfriend. Even things you shared when you were just friends. And tell yourself that you boyfriend is not your ex. And all the differences they have.
If you feel it doesn't work and things get worst. Go see a doctor because obsessive behaviour (like thoughts) is very painful and can be controlled. Keep this in mind.
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