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Pain during sexual intercourse! is this normal?

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Question - (31 July 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 1 August 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Is it normal to have pain during sex x my and my bf are both inexperice him being my first bf and first sexual partner x I find am a little tight and find it really painful I found sex painful for the first time and at first when my bf fingers me I find it painful is it normal to feel the pain or is my bf being over infuastic ?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011):

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Yeah I trust my bf I talked to him and he says if I have control over what happends now x I did but not great detail because I found my own way off coping

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (1 August 2011):

person12345 agony auntHave you gotten counseling? After abuse it can be incredibly hard to feel comfortable being touched/having sex. You have to really, really trust your partner. Know he's going to stop exactly when you tell him to, that you are in control of what happens to your body. That you can say no, stop at any time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011):

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Ok thanks I just wasn't sure because I was sexually abused in the past and want sure if it was anything to do with that x weather am still finding it hard to not assicate it with the abuse

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (1 August 2011):

person12345 agony auntNo it's not normal for sex or being fingered to hurt. You probably aren't turned on enough to be fingered/have sex. You need to be very aroused before doing anything involving any kind of penetration. Have him touch you on the outside (clitoris, labia, breasts, whatever feels good) for a pretty long time before trying anything inside you. A good lube couldn't hurt either, even just for being fingered.

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