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writes:I'm in a relationship that's just hit the 3 year mark, even though I'm only 17. We also live together with my dad and older brother. However over the past few months I've been feeling as if there's nothing there anymore. As if we've just settled into a routine. I like to go out and have fun with my friends but he likes to stay in and doesn't seem to enjoy going out at all. He also works night shifts on the weekends which makes it difficult for us to do anything as a couple anyway.However I decided to bring this up with him as he could tell something wasn't right with me and since then he's become very attached not giving me a moments peace. What can I do?I'm off to university in September and if we're still together he would be coming with me. But I feel that he's holding me back even though he technically isn't.I'm highly confused by it all.
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reader, Gena Bullock  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 I don't know how old your bf is; however, are there kids involved too?
SOunds odd to live with your dad/bro and he's there too?
Anyway, its not unusual to have a lag time in a relationship; I too have been living with my bf/fiance' for 3 years now and sometimes it gets quiet and I wonder if we're getting bored with each other. But, I know we do love and care for each other, and these are just passing moments/feelings. It's good to communicate them as you've done--it woke him up! Just keep communicating and things will smooth over eventually. Try doing different things with each other once in a while to keep things interesting.
MOvies out, lunch--picnic...lots to do if you think about it.
Best of luck, Gena
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (31 March 2008):
 You are too young to be living with someone, really. Most people change as they grow up and your boyfriend might very well settle into a hard-working bore, whilest you remain fun-loving, out-going and want new experiences.
Do you love him enough to talk things through and work at a compromise?
I would usually suggest you talk about each other's feelings and what you expect from your future together.
Talk about your needs, etc.
But I wouldn't be surprised if you made a huge mistake in settling down with someone before being able to really know him as an adult.
Good luck!
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