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Our trust and love is all down the drain... Help!

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Question - (12 July 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 13 July 2010)
A female United States age 36-40, *eautifulstruggle writes:

For 2 years, my boyfriend and i has been through a lot. From cheating, to numinous of lies and dishonest but some how we manage to overcome those things and still love each other. A few weeks before our 2 year anniversary, he broke up with me. At that time it was our first year in collage but different schools and was also the time we hit rock bottom. I felt everything we been through was a lie. He just left me. Why couldn't he stay and fix it? Two months after that he came back willingly to show me that he change and wanted to be happy and make this right. So i took him back.

But the problem is...

I cant trust him. After all the lies and dishonest and the cheating on me twice. I cant love him again. I love him so much but im scared to risk everything again. He recently got a job and he so stress out from his job and family and me. Because im always on him. im always asking him questions over and over again. And he gets mad. He doesnt make me feel like he's not doing anything with a girl. He just asked me to give him space. So i will, i probably need it too.

What im trying to ask is..

Should i stay? After all the lies and dishonest and the cheating on me twice which was 2 years ago, should i stay. Or should i move on because of all the fears to love him that i have. It took 2 months for him to realize that he made a mistake to break up with me. Should i stay? Is it worth to give him a chance again? is it worth for me to stop asking him so many questions and just trust him again?

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (13 July 2010):

This just isn't going to work out. He's cheated twice, lied and now he's gone and walked out. Enough is enough, surely. I know this guy will hurt you again. I just know it. Someone who can be as callous and disrespectful as he has on three separate occasions is just not worth all the love you can offer. The time has come for you to let this bag guy go. He's doing nothing to make you feel like he's worth your time. He just cheats or walks away. You need to let him go.

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