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anonymous
writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 year now and have sex regularly. But lately we have disgussed getting some sex toys, but im unure whether at 15 i can purchase them? and im worried if i go to a shop i will get funny looks because of my age. any advise?Also, for the first time the other night we had anal sex, i found it really painfull and we decided to stop after a while. Im pretty gutted because i was hoping we could make it a regular thing, as it would be new to both of us. I was wondering does it hurt every time or it is just the first time it hurts then it will be ok after? any suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): I doubt they will sell u sex toys at ur age and I do no anal sex hurts the 1st time but after a while it shuldnt relly hurt if dun rite... the thing is just relax... I don't no why ppl r judging u though there is no really age for falling in love and having sex its none of their buisness if u do choose to start at this age don't listen to any low lifer that tryed to put u down about this its ur life wit ur own decisions... plus they mite not be getting ne lol be safe byeXoxoxAshley
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 July 2007):
 Hi babe no problem x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin reply to rhythmmandblues2 again.
He didnt push me into it we both spoke about it and agreed to try it, if i dont want to do something i will say no and he understands, what i have done before! and no im not saying that job is sorted for the rest of my life or anything. im saying at 15 im doing ok, im not a drop out of nuffing. and im going to 6 form and then hopefully uni. and as i said i am certainly making sure i dont end up pregnant! thats why the pill and condom are being used. i wont have a kid at 18 i have better things to do than settle down with a child that age. like i said stop judging me.
Thanks to the others who posted comments .. well the nice ones .. they certainly are helpfull =]
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reader, love-him +, writes (1 July 2007):
Hi babe, um honestly, all these ppl tellin you, you shouldn't be doing this.. you already are.. your both of the same age, been in a relationship for long enough, you both enjoy it (and when you dont you stop).. use lube like i said in my other answer, for anal sex, as it makes it hurt less, and for the sex toys, either go to a shop which (maybe would let you off) but honestly uou have got to look the age.. as most shops have cameras.. mail me if you wanna talk babii x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): You asked a question and I think that you are entitled to an answer. However since you are a minor, I will remain anonymous, if you don't mind. 35% of Heterosexuals and 50% of gays practice Anal sex occasionally. Not all people are into this form of sexual pleasuring, so you need to keep this in mind. Here is the key to the giving or receiving of Anal-Intercourse.
* YOU NEED TO LEARN HOW TO RELAXS YOUR BODY, WARM BATH, EROTIC MASSAGE OR EVEN A GOOD WORKOUT, ESPECIALLY YOUR ANAL AREA.
* YOUR SPHINCTER MUSCLES, THOSE TIGHT MUSCLES THAT SURROUND YOU ANAL OPENING, WON"T LET THINGS PASS THROUGH THEM,UNLESS THESE MUSCLES ARE RELXED.
* SO SLOW AND EASYS IS THE WAY TO GO.
* DO NOT START WITH SOMETHING THE SIZE OF A DILDO, A PENILE SHAPED SEXTOY.OR EVEN A PENIS.
* YOU START WITH A FINGER,OR A SMALL SIZED OBJECT SHAPED LIKE A PENIS.
* THEN AS YOU LEARN TO RELAX YOUR ANAL MUSCLES YOU CAN INCREASE THE SIZE OF THE INSERTED OBJECT.
* THE CONDOM OVER THE FINGER SHOULD HAVE LOTS OF LUBRICANT ON IT. AND MORE IS BETTER.
* TAKE YOUR FINGER AND MAKE SMALL CIRCULAR MOTIONS AROUND THE ANAL OPENING.
* THEN YOU SLOWLY ATTEMPT TO INSERT YOUR FINGER INTO THE ANUS. DO NOT FORCE YOUR FINGER. IF HE OR SHE COMPLAINS OF PAIN. "STOP"
* THE FIRST TIME YOU MAY NOT BE USING ENOUGH LUBRICATION,LIKE I HAVE SAID MORE IS BETTER.
* THE FIRST TIME MAY BE PAINFUL, BUT AS YOU LEARN TO RELAX THE SPHINCTER MUSCLES, IF ANAL IS YOUR CUP OF TEA. IT SHOULD AND CAN BE AN ENJOYABLE PART OF ONE"S SEXUALITY. HOPE THAT THIS HAS BEEN HELPFUL TO YOU.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2007): stop banging, ur not old enough. when u r old enough to bang, continue with butt sex, no babies that way.
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (1 July 2007):
 I am thinkin' he pushed you into the sex experiment gone bad, which makes him a jerk, 8 months is not a long time to wait until you are ready to have sex when you are only 14, and having a part time job on the weekend may be all the further you are thinking in terms of your goals for an education after high school, babies at 18 are not a lot of fun when all of your friends are off to college, or having a fun night out with their friends....You do not need to be grown up at 15 and I am sure at 15 you think you have the answers, but you do not, take it from someone who has been on this earth over the number of years you are old times 3.....
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reader, Dani :) +, writes (1 July 2007):
well, since you've already been having sex, no one can really tell you to stop can they! im just glad your always using protection, and to be truthful you sound like your in a mature relationship and in no way a pushy one so ignore the negative comments on here. even though your underage, at least your thinking ahead with the condoms. i was underage when i had sex and do regret it so i do have to say please consider every sexual activity you do. im not promoting underage sex before anyone starts, id rather give advise the person is asking for. stop if it hurts, its doing you no good at all. and if you persist, keep using condoms and lots of lube. hope this helps x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn reply to rhythmandblues2, my boyfriend is not a jerk, not all boys that age are into just sex. certainley not mine. he isnt pushy atal, he waited for me till i was ready to have sex, what was 8 months. he didnt mind waiting either because he is not with me just for sex. im not to young to have a healthy relationship, its actually helped me grow up and mature what i needed to. how can you say im screwed up? im gettin good grades at school all a-cs ive got a part time job at weekends, and ive got a loving boyfriend and when we do have sex we are certainley safe. (on the pill and use condom most times)and i cant catch no stis seen as me and my boyfriends firsts was with each other. you shouldnt judge people before you know everything, because most things u said you got wrong.
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reader, PhillyPeaches +, writes (30 June 2007):
First of all, frankly I think people are being rather harsh to you at this point, so try not to cry when you read the other postings. I understand being young, "in love" (lets hope you are in love!) and wanting to experiment. But I do think these people have a valid point, in that 15 is rather young to be having sex, esp anal sex. Personnally I didnt have anal sex until I was 19, and I had been dating the guy for about 3 years, plus, we were in college. I think you need to slow things down some. At 15 you are still trying to find your own identity and your own likes and dislikes. It is pretty hard to do that when you are attached so intimately to someone else. You start to find that your likes become their likes and so on. Are you invloved in any sports or clubs at school? How are your grades? At 15 you want to be preparing for your future. Take it from me, the real world is tough, and the more preparation you have for it, the better. I know it seems like forever away, but you dont want to be stuck in a situation where all your friends are going to college and you are stuck with more of a sexual education than an actual education.
and ps. anal SUCKS the first time you try it. It doesnt hurt as much after that, but try not to make it a regular thing. Generally when a guy wants that he isnt really interested in YOU. Good luck out there kiddo!
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (30 June 2007):
 At 15 it would be illegal for anyone to sell you sex toys, so i doubt you could buy them legally until at least your 18.
For the moral auns on the site cannot really give you advice on sex except for make sure you use protection. And be careful with the anal sex
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (30 June 2007):
I feel sad for you that at the tender age of 15 you are into such sexual activities that a lot of people over 40 never do (anal sex for one).....your boyfriend sounds like a jerk to me....and there will be a lot of youngsters on this site telling you all about it, they are too cool for school and just as screwed up as you are.....get a life why don't you, and try enjoying the day light hours and focus on learning something other than sex in school, you will be glad you did, next on the agenda for you is a std and an unwanted pregnancy, you are making poor choices in your life, you have plenty of time to experience sex, and you are too young to have a healthy, loving relationship with a boy, because boys this age want to use you for sex, that is pretty much what is on their mind a lot of the time....there is a reason you are considered jail bait, you don't have good judgement and can be easily taken advantage of by a pushy guy.
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reader, love-him +, writes (30 June 2007):
Hey babe, honestly..ur from the UK, same as me =] babe u wont be able to buy them in shops. you HAVE to be over 18, unless in most cases you look older.. babe anal hurts lol but you should use lube =/ (TO THOSE WHO ARE GONA THINK IM MAD FOR ANSWERING THIS QUESTION, ID RATHER THIS GIRL HAD SEX (NICE) AND NOT PAINFUL, WHICH CAN LEAD TO PROBLEMS) mail me if u wanna talk x x x x x x x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2007): The answer before me was a little harsh but, ALOT of teens have sex before the normal age so don't worry yourself, the best sex youll ever have in your life will be right now, but remember to allways be protected.
I don't think you can legaly buy sex toys at this age.
and gay people have anal sex I think you get used to it.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Due to the fact you are under the legal age for sex, you can not expect anyone to answer this question for you, all i can say is that if you are chosing to go down this path at this young age i really hope you are using protection no matter how long you have been together.
Take care.xx.
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