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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:its been 3 months since i moved in with my fiance. we have been dating for 4 years and i have a 1 and half daughter with him.before we moved in ie me and my daughter, we used to see each other every weekend and it was cool.He was living with his 7 year old daughter ..so now we are one big happy family.....However we are far from happy..Adjusting has been difficult on both sides,....while i feel like i am overwhelmed, he feels that am under delivering on the picture perfect life he imagined.I feel like am trying here...i have pretty much changed routine....i now have 3 babies...my daughter, his daughter and him...and not much help on his side....i am a working mother(with a difficult job) .....so asto find a balance financially ...but my third baby cant help out on any chore in the house...(he figures those are wife tasks) when i ask he will politely refuse...so generally we will biker and biker and ofcos all this has affected our sex life...i am on a verge of collapsingHow do i explain to my man that putting down a mosquito net when we are going to bedis not a man or a woman job..anyone of us can do it..am on a verge of collapsing
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (16 March 2015):
 When both man and woman are bringing home the bacon then it's up to both to cook said bacon. Just like the anony said, there are no gender chores when both are working. Tell your boyfriend he has to pick the pace and make more money so you can quit your job or he'll be itching those mosquito bites big time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): Next time when he tells you it's a women job, tell him: it's a man's job to support a family so I can raise children instead of working hard. If you both working there is no such thing as gender job. You might know how to cook better or clean better, but then he needs to help out in other chores.
I think he is just lazy, and I would suggest you to have a very serious conversation with him or get your own place.
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