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*roken_Crown
writes:This follows on from my last question. We had our second date. He text me the night before to say he was looking forward to seeing me. Last night we chatted n chatted n laughed and I touched his arm and his back and leaned into him and we sat outside alone together. I hoped he would put his arm round me or something but he didn't but he didn't move away from me when I touched him. And the journey home wa full of chatter and laughing. Then we approached his and his character changed from being calm and chatty to suddenly being really rushed and he shot out the sat saying I hope u enjoyed tonight and we will sort something out for Friday. And he was gone no hug, no kiss, no touching from him. I got home and text home to say you seemed rushed is everything ok. He said he's ok and did I get home safe. Today he text me to say it was nice to see me and he enjoyed last night. Did I? I said I enjoyed being with him but the time goes by so fast don't you think? I've had no response. I am so confused. Does he like me the way he knows I like him. Does he just see me as a friend? Should I gave done something differently? We've only had two 'dates' (I think they r dates I don't know now). I could do with someone's opinion.
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reader, Broken_Crown +, writes (12 July 2015):
Broken_Crown is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks 'Anonymous'. He does know how I feel. About two months ago I asked him out and he turned me down. Then a few weeks ago we all went out as a group of friends and had a fantastic night following that i was at an event serving and he approached me at the end saying so will i see you again? And from that night we have seen each other alone just us 2. But I guess its looking like he just sees me as a friend then doesn't it really. :c I really enjoy his company.
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reader, Broken_Crown +, writes (12 July 2015):
Broken_Crown is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Janniepeg he replied not long ago said the time did go fast. He's definitely single and perhaps he is socially awkward he's much younger than me and maybe hasn't had many girlfriends but then I've not had many boyfriends either.
Perhaps next time we r together I should hold his hand and say something like you don't mind do you? See what his reaction is.
I've had conversations with friends today since posting and they say hes young he's shy, he definatly likes you, he's not used to the attention and give it time, why rush.
Ira not easy this dating lark!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2015): He could just be really nervous, and felt too shy or awkward to try and kiss you in case you backed away - so leaving in a rush avoided any chance of you declining him. Or he sees you as a friend and didn't want to kiss you and was nervous you wanted more...
Who knows, you need to chat more to this guy next time you meet up. Just say "so are we on a date here? I've been enjoying your company anyway and just wondered..." or something, make it casual and chatty and find out. At the moment it is just guess work, I'm sure you'll both feel better if you can have a chat about it. He may feel less nervous if he knows you're interested too! Good luck, enjoy each others company and just see where it goes.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (12 July 2015):
 I see two possibilities. First one is that he's socially awkward and has not touched any females for years and once he's have dates with you, he couldn't control his desires. He had an erection and was totally embarrassed that he had to stop before busting. He did not know what to respond or how to tell you why he left so quickly.
Second is that he's engaged to another woman. While he likes you and your attention he stopped before it reaches a point of cheating.
If he just sees you as a friend he would have said something, like he doesn't see you that way. A woman who misconstrued his intention or read him wrong isn't some scary thing to run away from. If he can't talk to you directly and is so afraid of confrontation then what good use is keeping in contact with him?
Sometimes people hide under an appearance of normal. There could be things that he kept secret such as IBS, overactive bladder, or a bad case of food poisoning. Any reason he can't contact you again is a bad sign, whether he likes you or not. It could be physical or emotional health reasons stopping him from having a functioning relationship.
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