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OK to appraoch a girl at work or try to get private time?

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Question - (23 August 2014) 2 Answers - (Newest, 28 August 2014)
A male United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Just a silly question really but basically I work in a parade of shops and there is a girl who has been working in one for about 6 months now.

And well she is very attractive and I wouldn't mind to ask her out , she keeps going past the window and I just think I should at least try lol .

But we have never actually crossed paths for me to start a convocation.

I have popped in the pharmacy once but was just friendly talk. But what's the best way to approach her?

Do I wait till she walks past and try to pop out just after her ? but that might seem a bit creepy

Or do I have to walk into the pharmacey and ask her out in front of all the staff and be a real man? lol but in the same sense she might find that awkward.

Don't get me wrong I think my chances are very slim but well I keep seeing her walk past and it just winds me up I have never took the chance really.

thanks

thank you

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2014):

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That is where the problem is. I have not been able to actually get some one on one time with her to get to know her.

And I didn't mean for it to sound that way. Just stating I would like to ask her out.

Regards to the 'Man' part I was stating that most Alpha males would more than likely have the balls or confidence to talk to her when ever and not worry about little things.

And the issue with asking her out in the shop is well she always has an audience behind her as it is a small pharmacy and they are behind her so its another reason why I struggle.

Thank you for the advise though, I just would like to get to know her but it will prob not happen .

thanks again

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2014):

"I wouldn't mind to ask her out"

I know you didn't mean it this way, but it sounds as if you're doing HER a favor by asking her out. It's just the odd wording. Anyway...

If the two of you have not crossed paths and you work in different stores/departments, it's going to be awkward if you approach her and you two have only exchanged brief, polite conversation. The situation is ambiguous because you don't know how she'll react to your initiation.

Definitely don't ambush her and ask her out. She's working. She's there to do her job, get paid, and move on. And don't ask her out in front of an audience either. It's not about being a man (whatever that means). Don't put her in an awkward position. Confessions at the workplace are unprofessional to say the least.

If you run into her again at the pharmacy and have a friendly chat, ask if she wants to get coffee or maybe even ask for her number. You didn't provide that much context, so it seems to me that this girl is pretty much a stranger to you as you are to her. You have to approach her carefully without coming off too strongly.

I don't know a lot of women/girls who would be welcoming of a stranger asking her out on a date. They might be more open to coffee (during break perhaps) than an actual lunch or dinner affair.

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