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writes:ive been offered money for a 1 night stand, im curious, i will wait for all u god fearing peoples comments and insults but also wait for the others. i find it quite exciting and i think 1 should experience everything once, lifes so short. how could i make sure im protected both sexually and physically?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): how much did he offer to pay you?
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reader, Who  +, writes (17 April 2009):
 It theory, prostitution have a lot to offer the woman. She has something, she sells it, she still has it. She picks and chooses who she sells to. If the man is a gentleman, she gets paid for having a good time.
In practice it does not usually work out that way. Most are forced into it, either by economic conditions or violence. Other people, not the prostitute, get most or all of the money. After a while the women rend to view all men in a negative way. It is not by accident the icon of the old, hard and bitter prostitute occurs in popular culture.
Maybe you can make the theory work out. If you get HBO on your tellie you might want to check out the show “Cathouse” for the best way these things can turn out. (Or Google “hbo cathouse”.) If you decide to go for it (and if you really are the age you state) follow the advice given below. I can also guess the following may increases chances of having things turn out positive:
1. If you know the man (where he works, lives, etc.) I’m guessing there is less chance of things turning out bad then with a stranger.
2. Make it as close to a date as possible. Doesn’t have to be a long date, maybe a drink at a pub. Encourage him to chat you up and flit with you. After a while, steer the conversation sexual; ask him is favorite positions, what his first time was like, what his fantasies are. (May not be able to fulfill all position/fantasies.) The more he thinks of you as a woman and not an object he is paying to use or maybe abuse the better. You want him to be paying to make the end of the date a “sure thing.”
3. Make up your mind on what you will not do and tell him before the dry goods come off. Do everything to make it enjoyable for him but don’t waiver on your “do not cross” line.
4. When you are alone in the “place” and have talked for a little while, ask him to put the money down. You pick it up, make sure it is the right amount and put it away safely. Now it is on; take an active role getting things started. (I’m sure you have your own style on this, but things like taking off your knickers and showing him what you got. A little bit slutty is OK at this point because, (no offense) that is what this kind of thing is.) Again you want him to view you as an active partner not an object, and to feel he is going to get his money’s worth.
5. He may want to tell you what to do and you do all the work, or he may just want you to let him do the work. Be prepared for both and everything in between.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): my darling, don't even bother about us god fearing peoples comments and insults, you just go ahead, as one poster said, its the world's oldest profession, and it will be for centuries to come. just enjoy and make sure your price is right.
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (17 April 2009):
 It's the oldest profession. If you are going to do it, do it safely, and only do it because you want to.
I think Uncle Phil has covered all the safety points you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Interesting question. I don't fear God because I don't believe there is one; I prefer to go the way of Charles Darwin and the Big Bang theory.
Get the money first. Make sure he uses a condom. Have your best mate sleep in the next room, just in case things turn nasty. Failing that, make sure someone knows where you are and if you haven't contacted them by a certain time get them to call the police.
Why is it that it's mostly women that get offers like this? If it was the other way round I'd get that new boat in no time at all!
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reader, Matt269 +, writes (17 April 2009):
 i suppose you could make sure you are protected by making sure the person you have sex is wearing a condom. also tell someone you trust where you are in case he gets out of line. Keep mace with you to defend yourself. Also keep your cell phone with you at all times and make sure the battery is fully charged. If he gets inappropriate be assetive and let him know what you want and what you don't. Also if anything doesn't feel right get out.
As for if you think what you are doing is right. Well thats all up to you. If you are comfortable with yourself and you don't see anything wrong with it then go for it.
If you can't look yourself in the mirror and be happy with what you see then you are in trouble. So just consider that. Also, some people might judge you if they find out. Just be prepared for that.
Anyways, good luck and stay safe.
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reader, hip_hoppin_bitch +, writes (17 April 2009):
no, no, no! wat if u do have protection and the condom breaks? wat do u do then, tell him to help raise a child? well hun, he'll probably say, i already paid u. and if ur on the pill, wat about std's, u don't kno if hehas these or not, he jst wants the sex and nothing more, but why is he gonna go get tested to c if he got std's and have 2 pay 4 dat, then pay u 2 have sex wit him, u can get money other ways, and sex with other ways, by dating a close friend for a while, or jst meetin new peeple, but i do not recommend this. good luck if u say no.
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