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writes:I had a crush on a college professor who is quite young. He knows that I have a huge crush on him. So after I graduated from college (maybe around a month) I got a follow request from him on instagram. I accepted his follow request. I posted an update n he liked it. I checked out who he was following and I saw that there were few of his male friends and just me. I also checked out his followers there were no girls other than me following him. He also changed his old fashioned username to a classy one after I accepted his follow request. What shall I think about all this?And will it be okay if I approach him?Guys please help!!Pretty Please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am 100% sure that he is single. It was him surely who had sent the follow request. One more thing, after 29 weeks I get to see his updates and before there was only one update he had posted. Don't you think sudden update is bit weird? Especially after I started following him. And even I 'liked' his update. Well coming to the classy name I know its him because in username he had written it in braces before and now its his so called modern name only.
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (20 July 2015):
 I don't have Instagram myself but many of my friends and co-workers do, and it seems quite commonplace for people to "follow" platonic friends or even people they don't know in real life. So you can't infer much (if anything) regarding his intentions from the follow request.
I gather from your post that you have graduated college and are no longer a student of his (or a student there at all). So approaching him now shouldn't violate any school standards or policies, and since at 22-25 you are over the age of consent in India, nor would a relationship with him be illegal.
If you are reasonably sure he is single, ask him out for coffee or a film if doing so is culturally permissible for you as a woman. If he agrees he is interested. If he declines he is either not interested or not available.
Good luck and best wishes!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2015):
 How do you know for certain that the instagram request was from him? You said he has a few male friends and then only you.
When you say he changed his name to a classy one, does that mean it was odd in some way? What does an old fashioned username mean?
He is the one who sent the follow request, presumably (assuming it's actually the professor), so he's made an approach. You accepted his follow request.
Have you ever actually messaged him? Is that what you mean by "approach him"?
It does sound to me to be a bit odd but I guess stranger things have happened.
Why can't he just ask you out on a date? (This is coming from someone in the US who doesn't know all the intricacies of dating rituals in India, so take that with a grain of salf.)
Does he have a girlfriend or a wife?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-should-infer-from-his-follow-request.html
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