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writes: When I met my man he told me he was divorced and was quite wealthy.As the relationship has blossomed he admitted that he had once had everything but now has next to nothing and that although he isn't divorced they don't live as husband and wife.He has a son that lives with him and she visits 2 to 3 days a week and stays over. She got to know about me and went mad at him and he walked out and came to live with me.Due to reports that his son was missing him and his school work has deteriorated and the fact that she has threatened to take him out of one of the top ten private schools and put him in a state school, he has now moved back over there.Most of our relationship is carried out on messenger but when she is there he won't even come on there.I really love him but this is really getting me down, he says we will work it out and that he is working for a future for us. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2005): You gotta get a grip.More so, so has your man. If he loves you and is serious about you and having a relationship with you then he is the one who needs a good look at his life.As for not being what he said he was/is, well- I know that feeling too well. It doesn't mean he doesn't want you or love you tho. Look at it as a peacock preening his feathers, ready for courting... its a show! It may have been true, like my man was wealthy, cars, house, posh schools etc.. Not when I met him, the ex had taken the lot!Does it worry you that he isn't wealthy, or is it the fact that he is still breathing the same air as his ex? It can hurt, I'm sure. If you are serious about this relationship then talk to him.Sod how she feels or how he wants her to feel... if she is ill and needs careful handling then the child shouldn't be in her care either! Tell him how you feel and ask him to give you a reason - a valid one - for his evasive behavior.Take control of how you feel... make it happen.
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