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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend about 2 years and we have lived together for the past 8 months. Everything is fine and we are happy. I am going out of town next week and I have a feeling in the pit of my stomach that something is going to happen between him and one of his female friends. I trust him, but something about her makes me feel very uncomfortable. Its the first time I've ever felt nervous about him being faithful and I don't know why I'm suddenly worried about this. Am I just being paranoid? What signs should I look for?
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reader, enjoimx +, writes (14 March 2010):
 Its not about trying to find "signs" that he cheated or not. Thats secondary. What is most important is YOUR feelings of distrust. You have developed these feelings and need to deal with them, and it will be difficult. His cheating or not is up to him, dont worry about that untill it happens. Worry more about your own feelings, because it is you at this point who will change the dynamics of the relationship.
If a guy cheats, assuming you are a good girl and you guys are not super dysfunctional, he will have too much guilt to go for very long without telling you. And anyway, if he does cheat, its just a sure sign that he isnt "the one" and your search continues. Dont fear the unknown, embrace change.
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