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anonymous
writes:Last night I went to a party that my ex was at and got so badly drunk that i remember very little of what happened. This morning my friend was helping me fill in some of the gaps, and she said that she came into a bedroom to find me naked in bed with my ex. I have absolutely no memory of this at all (it is something i NEVER would have done sober) and this morning i'm very worried about what happened.. it seems fairly likely that we had sex, given the situation, and I'm scared that if we did we may not have used protection (my friend said she saw a condom on the floor when she came in but it was still in its wrapper). This morning i tried to go to the pharmacy and get the morning after pill to be safe, but both the doctors surgery and the pharmacy are closed all weekend in my town. I don't what to do... i'm angry with myself for the way I behaved, but i'm also a little annoyed with my ex: i cant help but feel a bit taken advantage of given that I was basically paralytic and he was fairly ok, although obviously the state i was in was my own fault. Its also really freaking me out not being able to remember anything... i dont really know why i'm posting, I guess i'm just looking for some advice on what to do. And please, no comments telling me how stupid i've been to get in this situation in the first place... I already know, and i feel awful :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): Alcohol Poisoning....Save a Life, Learn About it
http://www.collegedrinkingprevention.gov/otheralcoholinformation/factsaboutalcoholpoisoning.aspx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): I seriously doubt that your boyfriend was able to take every stitch of your clothing off had you been a dead weight drunk, you were most likely coherent and willing at the time.This is called a black out. And it is very serious, you could actually have died from alcohol poisoning. I am not calling you stupid, I am telling you that you should be scared. You have a problem with alcohol. It isn't normal to drink to that excess, you need to stop drinking, period...as you are prime for becoming an alcoholic as that has genetic roots, it is a progressive disease, meaning that it takes ahold over you slowly over a period of time and before you know it you are a true drunk.As far as the sex, just ask your ex what happened and if you used protection. My guess, is your memory will come back to you in bits and pieces like a piece of a puzzle, if you just start thinking about the events of the night.Read This Articlehttp://media.www.critograph.com/media/storage/paper1029/news/2006/10/26/HealthLifestyles/Alcohol.Blackouts-2383640.shtml
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reader, person12345  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 That fits the legal definition of rape you know. Taking advantage of a person while they are intoxicated falls well into the rape category. It's not so much that it was stupid, he's in the wrong here. I'm sure there's someplace you could get yourself the morning after pill. Take care of yourself...
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reader, Andy78 +, writes (10 July 2010):
Why dont you suck up your pride and call to ask if he used protection. May put your mind at rest but just to be safe go get the Morning after pill and while your at it book an appiontment for STD check up ( theres no shame in it and yo would be surprised to know how many people actually get them). Heres a link to info on the times for the Mpill hope this helps. Andy
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/morningafterpill.htm
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