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writes:What am i doing wrong , girls still dont like me ?Im a junior in hs and alot of girls dont like me . Idk y though , i tried be confident, an asshole, ect. pretty much everything Nothing works !!!! And all my female friends say im real attractive and wear my style very well, and im 182 lbs of muscle !!!! I thought girls liked desiel lean guys . So whàt is it ? Someone help
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2013): I've been in your shoes, and I know it's hard wanting a girlfriend, but when I stopped trying, so many girls started talking to me, and now there is one I like a lot and she is beautiful and she even agreed to be my date to homecoming, the catch is I AM A NERDY SCRAWNY GUY WITH AN AWFUL HAIRCUT and my only good feature is my eyes. If it worked for me, I see no reason why it won't work for you.
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reader, Silius Sodimus  +, writes (2 September 2013):
if your "trying" to be the shizniz you won't get squat, anyone can see through that.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (1 September 2013):
 Acting like an asshole even though you're not one might, if you are a good enough actor, get you girls, but ask yourself if they would be the right kind of girls. It's a myth that all girls like jerks and don't even give nice guys a chance. I've never liked "bad boys", and neither has any of my sisters or friends, with the exception of one of my school friends, who has had a string of destructive relationships with men who cheated on her, and now has 3 children by 3 fathers. I've dated men who weren't nice, but I wasn't with them because they were "bad", things ended because they were mean and unreliable and ultimately boring. I am now with a sweet, kind, dependable man who treats me like gold and it's the most exiting relationship I've ever had.
Nice girls don't like arrogant men, and you should be aiming for a nice girl. Don't just try to "get a girl"either, wait until you met someone you really like and then go after her. Be natural, be interesting, be funny and be kind. It will happen.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 September 2013):
 Maybe you need to stop trying so hard, it can come across as fake and desperate and.... immature.
You obviously have female friends, have you asked THEM what it is about you that is not "getting" a girl?
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (1 September 2013):
 It's probably your insecurities showing, despite your best efforts to hide them. Your desperate efforts to be what you think girls desire most likely come off as disingenuous or try-hard. Those are two of the most unattractive traits a person can have.
Do you have any interests or hobbies that you legitimately like (legitimately, as in not just pretending to like those things to impress others)? Work on developing your own personality and unique character. People become attracted to others because of shared likes and dislikes, not just physical attraction. If the depth of your character is only doing things to look hot, then there isn't really much to you for a girl to be attracted to. I believe "hollow" is the word.
I hate cliches more than anyone else, but the best advice we can give you here is to simply "be yourself."
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2013): You're so young!!!Try not to worry so much. It will all work out. I didn't have my first BF till I was 21, but I enjoyed focusing on myself through high school and college.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (31 August 2013):
Just be yourself unless there is a problem with yourself. Pretending to be something else is fake and people don't like fake people. Plus you're probably not doing it right.
Just be cool, find a girl that you're interested in (not just because of her looks, but because you feel like you'd be good together) and ask her if she'd like to go out with you and do whatever it is people do where you live. Take it slow and be brave... Don't be shy.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 August 2013):
 "Don't like me" as in rejecting your dates, not throwing themselves at you or not liking you as a person? You need more than muscles. You need to know how to talk to girls. Maybe less asshole, less concentrating on yourself and get to know a specific girl that you like.
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