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writes:Hi there,I Feel rather ridiculous having to come to a forum for the answers to my problems, but without spending hundreds of dollars this is the best help i can get.Around half a year ago, I came out of my first real relationship. It lasted just over a year(when past relationships lasted not even 3 weeks, for i would get tired of the girls no matter how pleasent or pretty) I was very heartbroken at the end of this relationship, and it took me a couple of months just to get back on my feet.The problem is now though..That i'm back to my old self. I've been on countless dates, but after the first day/night thats the end of the fuse. Come the next day i actually feel disgusted to even talk to them. Now don't get me wrong, you may assume i'm just another 'man' and sleeping around. I'm not at all, and this 'carnal apathy' (yes i named my problem) Is getting in the way. Before i was fine being single..But now after being bitten by the love bug i really love the concept of a partner. One thing i would like to point out..The reason we broke up, was a reason that could have easily have been solved, but i was too caught up (being my first real relationship) and took her and us for granted.I do wish i could take back and show the change. I think I may still be in love with her, but i can't even tell anymore, i'm just a conundrum to myself and others.So now i need Everyones advise to what you might assume my problem is...ask more questions if you wish..I'm willing to share it all. I want to be able to gain feelings for a girl..but no matter how many people i date(no matter how pretty or entertaining),then the next day, i gain a feeling of disgust and thats when i lose contact with whoever.P.s. i have tried to ignore the feeling and see a select few for a few more dates, but the feeling stays there just as strong as ever.The feeling i can compare to, is that of when you go on the rebound after a serious relationship. I'm on a pseudo rebound every date i go on.Is this going to need counsiling?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (21 January 2008):
 I think your problem is ,you still love your first real relationship.No one can compare to her and none will ever take her place in your heart.Your heart pines for her .
Why not you try to build bridges with her?
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