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writes:Does anyone else freak out that their hitting their thirties with no kids and husband/wife? I have tried online dating and that hasn’t worked (honestly most people I have met look for sex) and I am traditional ( I would at least like to date a bit before that)I’m an accountant I got all my certification etc my schooling etc masters and no one at work I want to be married because I always have been obsessed with men but I don’t know how not to panick? I’m 31.. my parents got married young - my friends are married ..I can’t seem to catch a break - at this point I don’t even know what or if I want it - I fantasize so much about it that I’m so lost because I race with timeHas anyone left this way or defeated in love? I have been in long term relationship- suprise they weren’t that great of men Any advice or has anyone come to this stage?By the way I go out all the time bars/ events etc
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2018): It’s ok to take your time. Sign up for things to do in your area like group hiking, book clubs, etc. there’s not too many husband material guys at the bar scene. Nothing is wrong with you, just look for your own happiness and you will attract the right person.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (19 April 2018):
 I married at 32. I met my husband most unexpectedly, had a very short courtship and we were married almost immediately.
It made me smile reading your post because the grass is always greener on the other side. You think that marriage is so romantic and you have someone with you to share everything... All true... But at the same time, it's a LOT of work. It requires a lot of compromises, keeping aside your ego no matter how angry or hurt you are and going on with life despite the times when you can't stand the your partner.
It's not easy OP. Even though my husband is genuinely a nice guy, a wonderful husband and companion, there are days I wish I wasn't married at all. I miss my old life, my parents' home, my bed, my independence.
Enjoy your single life OP. You never know who's envying you! You'll find someone one day but till then, cherish what you have.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (19 April 2018):
To the anonymous poster - how is that helpful advice? Where does the OP say that she is getting drunk and sleeping around? She says she goes out socialising to bars and events but it's a big assumption that she's getting drunk and having one night stands....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2018): Try being over 50 and single and alone and no kids.
Going out and getting pissed drunk and sleeping with random guys is no way to meet the right guy.
You have no idea how the world works...
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 April 2018):
 Amen to what Code Warrior said.
I married at 28 and have been married for over 20 years. My husband married the first time at 19, divorced at 21 and then married me at 28.
Marriage is DEFINITELY not what you imagine. How do I know? Because I have been married for 20 years, and I have also been a young woman.
While I DO find attraction a good thing in marriage, I think sharing values, morals, ethics maybe even interests and hobbies are more important. Love changes over time. The things you initially loved about your partner might not be the ones you appreciate later on.
As for meeting the "right" kind of man, well bars and events... may not be the best places to meet like-minded people.
I think perhaps through hobbies, interests, friends, family (church for those who attend) might be a better choice. The thing is WHEN you are looking for something... (think car-keys lol) you don't find them. At least not easily. So RELAX. Go meet new people, try new things, do social things you enjoy - NO because you are on the HUNT for a man.
Good luck!
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