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writes: I'm so worried right now. I don't know what happened to me, but I have serious sexual desire problem, and erectile dysfunction. Started few years ago. The doc says ,Im healthy, hormones are ok. And here goes my marriage, my wife 27 years was very understanding, but she is running out of patience.What can I tell her to believe me,if the doctors doesn't find anything wrong with me? I seriously don't understand myself. They say,its a mind over body thing. Does anybody have any good advice for me please? Reply to this Question
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reader, banjopicker  +, writes (9 September 2010):
Yes, it's true that certain meds can cause ED like blood pressure meds, but at your age ED can be related to stress. Sounds like your stressed that her patience is running out and stressed about your lack of being able to perform is making it worse. If you are healthy ask your doctor about Viagra. Even with ED meds you only have a 50/50 chance of improving unless your mental outlook changes. Sounds like your wife still wants sex. Start by changing the routine. Every woman likes candles, rose petals and great music. Don't be afraid to substitute with fingers, vibrators and sleeves, dildos, lots of foreplay and most of all don't ignore her clit. Make it a point to know what arrouses her and where all of her G spots are. Be able to read her body language. Be comfortable masturbating together. Your willingness to satisfy her will show her you still love her. Don't let this be the cause of a divorce.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (8 September 2010):
 Routine is a desire killer. Have you and your wife changed things up at all? Do you have fantasies that you could share with her that might spark some interest? The fact is, as much as you love each other, if you know exactly what's going to happen in the bedroom before you even get there it's not all that exciting.
Good luck!
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