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My wife's sister is seducing me

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Question - (28 October 2006) 16 Answers - (Newest, 16 November 2010)
A male , anonymous writes:

my wife's sister seducing me for long time now,she is older than my wife(32),more cute and very nice french body,she is visiting us regullary,and spend some nights and days with us,and her mum too.going to the beach,hotels,swimming pools with us,she is divorced,iam trying to make my wife and the 2 kids very happy as i can.no body want to marry her as her strong personality and looks cold lady.iam the only one who can observe what she is doing to me,and her mum and my wife do not see any of her tricks with me ( cos she is very clever girl). iam not falling in love to her at all but i get very exsited and very hot of what she is doing to me. i dont like to loose my family,so till now i didnt invulve to any forbidden relationship with her,but iam a normal human been. dear friends if you will respict what i said,i could send you the details of this deivl,and i swear iam not liying in any word of what i had mentioned. help me.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (16 November 2010):

Well, guy i must confess you're really in a very piable situation; at the crossroad of diverse views, from which you can draw conclusions from. the truth however is that whatever decision you take at this point in time should;

be firm and consistent

be logical,clear and reasonable

have a sustainable impact as such,

1. talk to her about your stand AND BE FIRM ABOUT IT.

2. if she rejects your decision, threaten to notify her sister of her behaviour and if she still refuses, go on and notify your wife and let your wife talk to her

3.try and cut off every link with her that could be seductive in nature, avoiding her at lonely places!

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A male reader, baapubai India +, writes (11 August 2008):

Hey man , try to play the tough trick . Act as if you are not at all noticing her and completely unaware of her presence and act as normal when you see her don't emit any visual or other type of signal showing positive signs . The trick is to make her belief you are a strong person of character at least in the cause of sex.

Word of caution don,t try to notice her body and wonder or compare it with your wife , it will get you into trouble. the ultimate truth is without your conscience agreeing you cant do such a thing and you cant excuse yourself saying i am a normal being because if you are caught you can't say the same excuse to your wife and society

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008):

I totally disagree with most of the posts, it is very wrong to tell your wife about it, cause the result will be a bit similar to the fact as if you slept with her sister.

What you should do, is let the sister understand that you love your wife, and that you dislike her, plus start avoiding being in a situation where she is in.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008):

You will lose everything at the rate you are going. Resist.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008):

I think it is very important for men who love their family do not having any secrets, as a mather of fact you should not enter to phase that you will be seduced unwanted.

do one of the these.

a) tell to your wife about your filling but do not tell her you are sure.

b) start a common conversation in the dinner table and talk about your feelings to being unfaithful.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2008):

Hello there, i am i a buit similar situation. I was in love with my sister in love but am also love my wife and kids. What happened once was that i was some moments alone with my sis in law and we one thing led to another as they say - we got intimate. I found out that though the sex was great and we continued the relationship for a while, i did not love her but seemed that i was just bored about my wife and wanted a bit change to my life. I am glad that my sis in law was only looking for sex with a safe partner and nothing else. we are good friends and agreed that we stop seeing easch other except in normal circumstances.

I think you may learn something from this true story though life is as different and every person is different. I think its a good idea to you have a word straight out with your sis in law and tell her what you think , also tell your wife what you think her sis is doing.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2007):

hey buddy relax avoid her as ur wife is more important cause she trusts you dont break your relationship with your wife cause its very difficult to make up god bless you bye

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2007):

i respect that you don't want to loose your family because of her.Talk to your wife and tell her what she's been doing and maybe she'll talk to her sister and maybe she'lll quit.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2007):

I know what you mean. It is difficult. But, your wife and children are first, even above your own personal desires or interest.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2007):

Hi there

I'm a female - and I can relate to your story. My elder sister likes to play similar games. My sister had an affair with my partner - it's been 10 years and I'm still not over it. It hurts so much words can't possibly explain how much. And i'm only 26!

I don't speak to my sister - but that's not enough to heal my pain. I have lost confidence in myself even though I'm a very attractive person. so please don't do anything stupid for a few minutes pleasure. this woman doesn't want you! she's sick and gets pleasure out of doing something wrong. Once she gets what she wants she won't want to know you anymore.

My partner beggged me to stay. Even now he wants me back but I can't go back. it's too late. Your wife might feel like that about you. So please don't do anything stupid if you really do love your family.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2007):

I was seduced by my sister-in-law and I let it happen

We ended up in bed and I gave her a really hot sexual expereince. I am sure she will always remember. I turned the tables on my sister-in-law and when I was done with her she begged me to give it to her again and again. I introduced her to bondage and she was totally restrained as I gave it to her,and she now wants it this way all the time. I love doing it with her as she can't get enough of what I give. She gets it from me about 3 times a week.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 October 2006):

eyeswideopen agony auntDrPsych has hit the nail on the head. This really has nothing to do with you per say, the sister has big time issues with herself and your wife. I wouldn't be so sure that your wife hasn't noticed her tricks but has chosen to ignore them. Talk to your wife and let her know that you are uncomfortable with her sister's behavior. She can tell her to knock it off or not visit anymore.

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A female reader, DrPsych United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2006):

DrPsych agony auntStop your fantasies over this woman and start to realise that she is a bitter, sad, lonely person who is hell bent on causing trouble in her sisters marriage. If she had a good life of her own then she wouldn't be too bothered about destroying her sisters!

This is not even about you - you shouldn't feel flattered by her attentions as you could be any man with a pulse in her eyes; you just happen to be someone else's man who she feels very jealous of - your sister has the package of the husband, kids etc and she has failed to achieve this. Let her play her games if it is the only thing that fills her empty vaccuum of a life - she is divorced, dateless and depending on her family for company. Since you recognise the situation for what it is now, why throw away a marriage, destroy a happy family life and play right into the hands of this sad woman...surely you are more intelligent than that?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006):

I can believe what that male reader just told you cheat on your wife. I think you should tell your wife what's going on. If you really love your family don't do anything stupid

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2006):

As i see it, you are very lucky man. i wish my sister-in-law would seduce me. However, this is obviously tricky too. Be very careful, but if you think you can get away with it, then why not enjoy your wife's sister.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2006):

well ur options are, tell ur wife and hope she believes u. talk to the sister and find out what is really going on and then nip it in the bud. or u can just remove urself from the situation. for ex. when she is around try not to be alone in a room with her, make sure ur not going to put urself in a position where ur capable of making any mistakes that u will regret.

u must remember that ur sister in law is not playing with a full deck. her relationship with her sister doesnt mean much to her if she is going to be sneaky and try to seduce u. if worst comes to worst give her shit, give her the how dare u look.

stay true to urself, ur wife and kids

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