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*reenmountainrock
writes:My wife and I had some relationship issues 10 years ago and separated for a couple months. In that time she had a fling with an older man who was her aunt's roommate. That fling took me a long time to mostly get over.The last couple weeks my wife has been vocal in her sleep. I'd go and hold her and she'd yell out that she doesn't want sex ( insert his name). Or telling him to get off of her. This has me very upset and wondering what the heck is going on. It is bringing back some very bad memories and insecurity. It's also makes me feel inadequate, as I was told how good their sex life was before we got back together. As well I know he has twice the manhood than I.Should I confront her about it?
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reader, methuselah  +, writes (2 June 2014):
Hi,
This is not nice for you. If she is doing this, then it may be time for you to have a talk to her about it. Explain that it upsets you but also ask about how she is feeling and if she is aware of these nightmares.
It's not a good situation for you and you may find it can affect your relationship long term. I'm not so sure I could put up with this for too long from my wife.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 June 2014):
 Should you confront her? Um, confront makes it sound like she did something wrong. She isn't in CONTROL of her dreams and they honestly doesn't sound like pleasant dreams either.
I would bring it up though. Non confrontational. Honey this happened last night, are you having nightmares? Are you OK?
And really.... if she WANTED his PENIS she'd be with him, not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2014): Are you sure she is asleep? Sounds weird to me..
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 June 2014):
 If you're stuck with just a weeny manhood, you'd better just keep your mouth shut and pray that this issue passes quickly... before you have to justify yourself to her....
Good luck...
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