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writes:My wife and I have a close friend...his name is John. John spends a lot of time with us. He's single and hangs out with us a lot. He and my wife are taking a class together and they often work out together. Last night, we took John to the airport. He was flying to San Diego for a seminar/workshop. We got to the airport early and sat in the terminal for some time. When it got close to his plane departing, she walked with him to the gate. When she got up from the chair, she took his hand and walked with him to the gate. It took a while for them to board the plane and she stood there holding his hand and when it came time to board, she kissed him, on the lips, for at least 10 seconds. The weird thing was,i wasn't upset about it at all. The only reason why I'm even seeking advice is because when I told a friend, he said I was crazy and shouldn't allow it. The thing is, they've been friends for about 8 years. Other friends have said it's okay. Advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, seaturtle +, writes (19 May 2010):
I think that there is something romantic and sexual between them - feelings wise, even if it's never progressed byond kissing. have you still not talked to your wife or your friend about it? Do you maybe have mixed feelings - partly jealous, partly turned on? Anyway, if it happened,it's good that it was out in the open. The most important thing is to feel OK, and to honstly jnow what's going on.
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reader, complexedguy +, writes (13 July 2009):
Get a grip, dude. John and your wife have been having sex and have had an emotional relationship for years. She's tired of hiding it, and was giving you a clue. She enjoys having her sex buddy on the side, but likes the security of being married to you. Which is all a husband is to most women and statistics say most married women are having sex on the side. She was testing the waters to see what you'd do. My guess is she's hoping for you to be open to her having a sexual relationship with John and end up sharing her with him. Or she wants to cuckold you and you get nothing but the chance to be her paycheck, and John gets all the sex and affection. But, if she is still affectionate and having a good sex life with you, then I bet she wants to be shared equally by both.
You were obviously upset about it, or you wouldn't have brought it up to a friend in the first place. Either that or you were confused by being a little turned on seeing you wife do that with another man. If you were upset by it then you probably will get divorced, because I can about guaranty they've been going at it for sometime. If you were okay with it and turned on by it, then you might be sharing your wife and maybe getting into watching her have sex and even giving her a three way.
The fact is, she's been doing John like a little bunny for sometime. The question is, how do you feel about it? Either you'll leave her or you'll share her.
If you want to find out, get her hot and revved up during foreplay and pretty close to orgasm, then ask her if she's ever thought about having sex with John. She kissed him in front of you to get some type of reaction. That'll break the ice and get her to open up.
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reader, CNKlives +, writes (17 September 2008):
I would be very offended, but that is because I know my boyfriends personality, and it isn't to act that way. I've dated other men that wouldn't offend me if the pecked another girl..but that is because I know it was their personality...a long kiss would def offend me..
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2008): There might be something inappropriate going on here and if I were you I'd be more than a little concerned about the way they're behaving. The fact that they kissed openly might be their way of saying they've got nothing to hide, but I wouldn't mind betting they have.
Even the best of boy/girl mates who have wives or husbands don't normally act like this. You could ask your wife if there's more to their friendship than meets the eye, but if there's any hanky-panky going on she's unlikely to admit it.
In any case, I would tell her that you have concerns about their behaviour and that you don't like being cuckolded and made to feel a complete fool.
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reader, Midge  +, writes (17 September 2008):
 To be honest I think it depends on the person. I personally would not be impressed if my boyfriend went and kissed a friend of his on the lips for at least 10 seconds. A quick kiss, fine! But not for 10 seconds, thats a bit too much. For me, I would probably think that there was more to the relationship than being just friends.
Perhaps they do have a close friendship, but it just wouldnt be right!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (17 September 2008):
 In short...It would worry me. But then I wouldnt let my B/F kiss one of my mates like that.
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reader, vix100 +, writes (17 September 2008):
 If you don't have a problem with it, don't let other people's opinions change that. She obviously felt comfortable doing that in front of you. Have you spoken to her about it? If it is purely platonic and you are not being deceived in any way, I'm sure it was just two friends saying an affectionate goodbye. But if you were comfortable with it, and she obviously was, where's the problem? Everyone's relationship is different, so others cannot really judge what should or should not be 'allowed'.
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