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writes:After i had some business problems my wife decided to qualify as a masseuse and try and bring in an income.That was 4 years ago.After a year of working in a Spa she decided to work from home. She said a lot of her regulars had said they would continue to see her.It seemed to work and she makes good money although I have never been that happy with the job and the majority of her clients seem to be male as far as I can make out.About a year ago she told me she wanted to join an exchange network . She had always enjoyed a massage when we were away in hotels and said and said it would be free to receive a massage plus she would learn more.I couldn't really disagree as it was free but had my reservations.Well now she seems to meet up a couple of times a week during the day.I was beginning to get suspicious that maybe it was more than just massage. She had definitely changed , somehow she looked much younger than her 43 years which is 12 years younger than me as it is.I decided to investigate the network she was involved in and discovered that many considered it a medium for erotic massage and even sex .Of course i couldn't prove it and when I made a small comment to her she laughed it off telling me I was an old prude . She said she was learning better techniques and that would help her build up more clients.So that's where i am and I am thinking how i might try and hack in to her account. Am I wrong or should I just ignore it as she seems very happy and we are much better off now
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2017): You say she works from home......
Could you set up a secret camera in the room to monitor what she really does?
Or place a voice activated recorder in the room....?
Not sure if it would be legal but it's what I would do.
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reader, Billy Bathgate  +, writes (8 August 2017):
Your wife has a clientele made up of men and is now part of group that is for erotic massage and sex. And you're putting up with this?
You say she seems happy but are you actually happy it sure doesn't sound like it. Have you actually tried having an honest open conversation with her about how you feel. Try that before you try hacking her computer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2017): Your gut is telling you something. Why would you ignore it and put your head in the sand?
For this so called "happiness?" Yeah, maybe she's happy cause she's getting extra curricular sex on the side and she's getting away with it! She has it all. Comfort and security AND excitement!
What about you?
Are you really happy? Be honest.
You are worried she's cheating. That's not happy. In time, it's only going to get worse as these nagging suspicions and insecurities will wear you down.
It is better to find out the truth. Whatever it is. As devastating as it could be, you could only rebuild happiness from the ground up. Happiness is on the other side. Not in the fake little happy story you create in your own head.
You owe it to YOURSELF to find out what's really going on. Good or bad. Peace of mind comes from knowing the truth.
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