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writes:My wife hates it when I watch porn. The only time I watch it is when I masturbate. I want it to be over witch quick when I do and porn gets the job done. Masturbation is totally random with me. Sometimes I don't do it for weeks sometimes I do it every day. Right now I'm in another country on a deployment. So I can't have sex with my wife. What is some advice you may have on this?
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reader, alinarux +, writes (11 September 2008):
I think its good that u wanna solve the problem and she sending pics of herself is a great idea....
Yeah I can fully understand her my bf (we had a long distance relationship ) done it and it hurted me
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008): Tell her what I told my wife. "Let me take pictures of YOU, and the whole lot will go out the window!" The bottom line for me is that my wife IS what I really want, and many women out there demand that men spend inordinate time and energy learning about them, but when asked to do the same they yell "FOUL!"
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reader, SCxMaster +, writes (7 December 2007):
SCxMaster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your guys' thoughts. Some of them I think are way out of the ball park though. My wife just got a new vibrator and I got to thinking...Why is it ok for her to have a "tool" to help her masturbate? That's all I use porn for what's the difference?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): why don't you think of something really naughty and sexy about your wife.my b/f of 3 yrs and goin' strong do that.women masturbate just the same as men,Believe it or not.It sucks that you feel like you have to look at other women,if thats what you call them, because i know it will hurt your wife.it's a sin for her when you do that.think of her doing that to you with other men.i don't think men/women have to resort to looking at other naked people to get turned on.have some imagination MAN! your wife ids with you because she loves you.that is sexy to me and if you need a whore to fullfill your fantisies, maybe evaluate yourself ,and maybe it's something you can stop doing.not all men need porn to have a full life.love her,cherish her like she does you.and leave the pimps and hoes out of it.come on!and get on with your lives!!you can do it..trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): i think you and your wife did a good job helping each other. My husband and me, we did the same thing , it was working at first but now not anymore because he already cheated on my while he was deployed to another country which is now two times and he still asked me to forgive and give him another chance, i have no answer for him. oh well, im glad you and you wife know what to do to save your married life. So good luck and dont cheat on your wife as my husband did. Wish you guys a happy married life forever.
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reader, BreeBree +, writes (14 November 2007):
I just wanted to respond to give you some understanding into SOME women's minds on porn.
To me, I don't like the idea of a man looking at a woman other than his wife and masturbating. In my mind it is a form of cheating, like you want to have sex with that other woman. If my husband masturbates when I am not around, I would rather him think of me to turn him on than a woman who posed online with her clothes off or in a video. And once someone see images which turn them on they stick with them.
I feel also that it is mentally damaging for the husband. If he is looking at touched up, unrealistic bodies, what is he going to think of his own wives body? Even if she is a supermodel, she can't live up to touched up images or fake boobs.
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reader, SCxMaster +, writes (11 November 2007):
SCxMaster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Mandy. I've been wondering when I would get some more pictures from her. I don't want to nag her about it or have her think I expect new ones every month or so. And I want her to do it when she feels comfortable enough to actually do it. I feel that I'm very lucky I got what she sent in the first place. Once this other problem with her gets solved I can start working on getting more pictures from her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2007): Hi Hun,
I think the piccys a good idea, Im not worried about porn really it is just visual and as you say the noise that get you going and then its over.
Sometimes I think us women do get it wrong when a man likes to do this, In my veiw do it with me...Thats exciting... But while your away pretty hard. So to put her mind at rest keep her busy with getting her to take some really sexy pics of herself that will keep her feeling sexual and also she knows you want her, My fiance got me to do some sexy talk and recorded it on his phone when I went away hunny plus the photos.. hope this helps a little TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, SCxMaster +, writes (11 November 2007):
SCxMaster is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your suggestions. She did send me some very nice photos of herself. I was very surprised when she did, I never thought I would see photos of her like that. They are fantastic. Those work out very nicely when I'm able to chat with her online at the same time.
I prefer the videos to photos because the sounds are what get me going. I told he she should record herself making some noises for me while I look at her pictures. Dunno what's going to happen with that one though :)
Do women think that because a guy watches porn that he doesn't like his partner anymore? Or that she doesn't turn me on? Or that I think of the women on porn when we have sex?
So confusing...
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reader, fishdish +, writes (11 November 2007):
 I think that's tootaly acceptable, but the problem is i think porn is totally acceptable, so your wife and i differ on that point! I know this is a rough suggestion but maybe you could just ask her if she thought that was acceptable, so that if some porn shows up on the bills she isn't pissed that you're doing it behind her back. if she's not ok with it, explain to her you have to relief SOME kinda sexual stress over the next months, and that watching porn doesnt replace her in your eyes, it's not a substitute it's more of a facilitator to get the job done or whatever you guys say :s. anyway, it's better to do it there than go looking for prostitutes like i hear a lot of guys do. good luck- my boyfriend's in iraq now too, so i feel for you and your situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 November 2007): I think that she should give you some dirty pictures of herself so that you can enjoy her anywhere
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