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writes: At a recent party, my wife got a little too drunk and sucked off a number of my good friends. I tried to stop her but i was pretty drunk myself and the whole thing seemed surreal at the time. The next day my wife apologised profusely and begged me not to leave her. I love her very much and so I stayed but now my friends (a couple of which I work with) starting making passing comments. Most were about her proficiency and techniques in giving felatio and the fact that she swallowed their cum. I asked them not to talk about it and they were really good about it. But I have heard ocassionally that it has slipped out at parties, even when they are talking to other people.I love my wife, and have forgiven her and i know my friends are being good about it, but i still feel embarrassed and a confused by it all. I would appreciate some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): being drunk has nothing to do with it. What she did was wrong and no matter how messed up you are from drinking she knows better. Blaming it on being drunk is a lie she knew what she was doing.
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reader, liina +, writes (16 September 2006):
 shame you were just as drunk as she was.
But to be drunk that you unable to be in control. I disagree.
I can understand your wife perhaps getting carried away with one man, but with ALL YOUR FRIENDS.!!!!!!
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (14 September 2006):
 you TRIED to stop her!
are u insane no matter how drunk u are your wife gets tat crazy ass idea in her head you physically remove her!
and ass 4 your scumbag friends!
are none of them married?????
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reader, princessnikki +, writes (12 September 2006):
 At the end of the day, what done is done. and everything that is done has consequences. It will blow over and become yeaterdays news at some point. Don't worry about it. As long as you and your wife are happy and have got throug it, that is the most important thing.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 "my wife got a little too drunk"...ya think? I've got some swamp land to sell, you interested?
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reader, Rainee +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Have you learned a lesson from this? Next time the alcohol comes 'round, are you going to pass? Probably not. Studies show that even when people drink non-alcoholic beverages but they think they are alcoholic, people still act stupid. Ergo, it's not the alcohol that's the problem, it's the PEOPLE. You just want an excuse. You and your wife were/are collossal idiots. Your "friends" aren't really friends. Advice? Stop drinking (it's bad for you anyway, the risks outweigh the benefits!) and stop being stupid!
You can't stop people talking (short of causing their jaws to be wired shut) but you can do some talking yourself. Next time someone gives a backhanded compliment about your wife, you could say "Ya, she is great, isn't she? Much better than your wife." Quite nasty, to be sure, but you don't have many options. You're going to have to live with this a long time. A gentleman would never say such a thing, and gentlemen would never talk about your wife like that to other people, but you all have really proven yourselves not to be gentlemen!
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reader, shania  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Did they wash their genitals before it happened?...I hope so.
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (11 September 2006):
 I have never read anything more ridiculous!!! How in the hell could you not stop her and this happened with more than one person??? Oh my G-D!!! Then, she swallowed the cum on all of them. For you go forgive is a testament to you because I don't think that I could or at least never kiss her again. Kudos to you. I feel great admiration for any man who can do something that I can't.
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reader, Yos  + ♥, writes (11 September 2006):
 Well it makes for a good story, so you have to expect people will talk about it.
I think you need to figure out why you didn't stop her. And your wife needs to figure out why she did it. And I don't mean 'because you were both drunk', I mean the real reasons. I would suggest you two go to a relationship councillor and talk over the event with them. You do need to understand what happened, so that you can be sure it doesn't happen again. Until you have that closure, your feelings of confusion and embarassment will remain with you.
I must also say that I admire your ability to forgive your wife for this. I don't think I could, although to forgive is the right thing to do. Well done.
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Or just lock HER in the cupboard - and chuck the key...!! UNBELIEVABLE lol!
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reader, camille +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Your friends "were really good about it" were they? Apart from your mad drunken wife who has no respect for anyone especially herself, you lot are unbelievable. This is the most ridiculous thing I have EVER read! So neither you nor your friends could stop her? Really? So they all had their pants ripped down did they? Or were they all ready with erect penises out then? I find it difficult to believe that not one of you could restrain her. As there were a number of people involved, it seems strange that none could stop her? Clearly no-one wanted to. Including you. The excuse of being drunk is just that and not a very good one. You are all responsible to some degree and so you might as well just live with the consequences. Next time you have friends round, maybe you should lock the drinks cabinet....and their trousers?
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reader, ariel +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Well if my husband had to muff all my friends,I would probably feel just like you.You chose to forgive her,so follow your heart and do it.Its not going to be easy,she is going to have to prove she is sorry.You on the other hand must not let this affect your self-esteem,if people smirk and gossip tell them its happened and you and your wife have moved on and if they would have the decency to drop the subject.Walk tall and look foward,remember you chose to forgive her so do just that.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Er... Okay... your cool with your wife behaving in this way ?? Dont think my boyfriend would see it like that!! Or perhaps this is a fantasy of yours ?? If this did indeed happen and you have choosen to forgive then I dont think there is a lot else to say... The gossip will fade over time, but whats done is done and you cant change it, you just have to hope that she is truly sorry and wont do it again. You cant control what others talk about and if they see you as the local gossip right now you just have to grin and bare it, you have your wife to blame for it, but you have to rise above it, you have choosen to forgive, so that means ignorning and moving on from any gossip that surrounds it. I dont really know what else to advise if your staying with your wife you have to forget about it and move on, in time it will get easier but Im guessing that each party you go to is going to be extremely hard, maybe keep her on the orange juice! Forgiveness is a brave thing to do so longs you know what you are doing, people do deserve a second chance yes, but something tells me this is going to be a long hard road, but if being with your wife is all that matters time will heal all wounds!
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reader, nobody +, writes (11 September 2006):
Oh my god, what kind of woman is your wife. Normal women do not behave like this when drunk I assure you. I hate to say it but if she does this in front of you lord only knows what happens when you arent around. Get out and find someone with a bit of self respect.
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reader, Shannon +, writes (11 September 2006):
I actually dont believe you, but if its true then i would finish with her. she has shown total disrespect and has humiliated you.
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