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My wife bet a BJ to another man and he's won the bet... what should we do?!

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Question - (26 February 2010) 17 Answers - (Newest, 14 December 2010)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My wife made a bet that I don't want her to keep and now she has to pay up, or default on her word. What to do?

A couple of weeks ago, my wife, some friends of ours and myself were drinking at my house. The conversation got heated regarding an up and coming sporting event. This guy was really cocky and it pissed my wife off badly.

Well he was talking all this crap about his team and my wife was standing up for our team. He asked if we want to bet on the game, my wife up for the challenge said bring it on.

He said "What you want to bet?"

She said "You name it, anything!"

"Anything?" he replied.

"Anything!" she confirmed.

The exchange was pretty heated and I tried to warn her to be careful what she bets, she would have none of my advice.

Low and behold, he responded with "My team wins, you give me a blowjob to completion, my team loses I give you $1000 cash."

At this point I shoved him into the wall, but my wife out of the heat of the moment agreed.

"You got it, it's on!" she said.

He left the bar immediately as I was irrate.

Well, fast forward to yesterday and she had remorse and wanted to back out, but also didn't want to conceded to his ego. She just hoped her team would pick her up so to say.

Well, you probably saw the writing on the wall, but last night this guy's team won and low and behold my wife now owes him a blowjob.

So what do we do? I told her she doesn't have to follow through, this guy won't touch you. She says it's her own honor, on one hand if she does it she will feel like a slut, if she doesn't she will feel like a liar. I told her I'd rather be the liar. Not sure what she is going to do, what would you?

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A male reader, trouble13 United States +, writes (14 December 2010):

Honestly I hate to tell you this but if your story if true it sounds like she wants to blow him. No happily married woman even contemplates something like that unless she is unhappy in her marriage or you are swingers.

If it were me and she went through with it. I would leave her and tell his wife or GF the whole story about the bet and nail the shit out of his woman as a payback, especially is his old lady is a looker. BTW out of curiousity what does your wife llok like? can you share a pic or gu[ive us a brief description. I ask cause I wonder if she is the type of woman who is a looker who looks for male approval to validate her oppinion of herself. Im not trying to be a pyschoanalsys it just seems very odd for her to even ask you for your permission to pay the debt.

Sorry if Im coming off harsh but the whole story has a sleazy tone to it and if you truely love your wife you need to talk to her and find out why or how she could even contemplate suck another mans cock. Ask her if you can screw one of her hot freinds while she is paying her debt and ask her how that would make her feel.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2010):

What kind of a man are you? Don't let her do it. Kick the guy's ass and tell your wife not to be so stupid.

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A male reader, twinlab99 United States +, writes (30 March 2010):

twinlab99 agony auntare you people crazy! of course don't let her do it. HOnor my butt man.....if she even thinks about it I would leave her.

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A male reader, lovetokissyou Canada +, writes (9 March 2010):

first off, any man that could say that to another mans wife while the wifes hubby is there should have been beaten within a inch of his life, on the other hand when your wife said ok with the blowjob you should have said something to her , like what kind of slut are u or are u fucking nuts your not going to give anyone a bj unless its me, and 3rdly . seems to me your friend and or your wife could have something going and that was just a way of being able to get away with it and you knowing about it, , I agree with one of the responses that she should have slapped his face or through water or wine or beer in his face, and left it at that. to think that someone could ask for something like that from another mans wife sickens me. and you my friend let it go that far with out saying anything at that time, stand up and be a man. Tell your wife she is not giving out bjs to anyone and talk to your so called friend . that should have never happend . let me know what you guys deside, I would like to know.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010):

you honor your wifes bet for her.your wife is offering b jobs in your face and then conning you that she may have an obligation, wo da sucka

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010):

I think you should let her

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010):

well my freind I think you might find a gay man willing to keep your wife from renigging on her bet after all A bet is A bet but there are always other ways to settle it like getting someone else to do it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010):

Wot makes u so sure he would have paid up if his team lost? tell her to blow in his face till she`s out of breath and say there u`v had it,no breath left now. thats the best blow job i ever give,ur a lucky man. never mind her honour,its about respecting u.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010):

Man, that's not right. Even a single woman would throw a glass at a guy's face for suggesting something like that. You should have probably gotten in line behind her for smashing his face in.

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A female reader, Not My Name Australia +, writes (27 February 2010):

Not My Name agony auntThis is silly, ... no one should be giving BJ's over a alcohol fuelled bet. Who cares what a guy who would seek a BJ from another man's wife has to think about 'her word'. The opinion of such a guy hardly counts! There is no honour in acting dishonorably (to herself and you), so she wont retain honour by doing it, ..she will lose it instead.

If she is gunna hold on to this come hell or highwater as a warped definition of pride tho, ...then simple, hire a prostitute! She would still be 'giving' him a BJ to completion, .... just not doing it herself! So get him one - just not from her mouth.

Oh and get the most unappealing one (to his preferences) possible to put a dampner on the whole thing for him just for being a pig enough to ask for one from a married lady!

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom + , writes (27 February 2010):

Very simply. She goes back on her promise. Better to be a liar than to wreck your marriage, which it will.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010):

it is very easy to handle this problem,

let your wife call him and tell him she wants to fullfill her promise, but let her have and appiontment to meet him at a public place first

go there together with your wife and some of your friends

when he shows give him 1000$ in cash and infront of your friends and dont let him approach your wife

he well have nothing to say and he well forget all about it

especialy with the 1000$ in his pocket

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2010):

Obviously you go back on the word, i mean come on. It was jokey and said in anger she wasn't serious i mean come on man. Just don't do it

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (27 February 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntSometimes , in the heat of a moment and under the influence of alcohol, we can do or say silly things.

Sometimes, we may even bet on things which we cannot do .Like a BJ or cut off your head.

The sensible thing is to renege on her words and let others think what they want. There were no written contract and you don't have to be a gentleman in such friendly bets.It was all in fun but got carried away. Just put on a bold face and smile.

You are among good friends and they should understand. Blame it on the alcohol and move on.

Maybe, if your conscience pricks you,you could invite him out for a nice dinner or buy another round of drinks and settle that problem once and all.

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A male reader, DoubleM United States + , writes (27 February 2010):

DoubleM agony auntWhile I doubt the veracity of this story, all I say is that I'm glad I'm not you, or him or her. The reason for my doubt is that you first say the bet was made at your home, then you state that he left the "bar" immediately. Anyway, depending upon the value of the friendship (which I also consider very dubious) and other factors, you (she) may owe the dude $1,000. I just doubt the whole story.

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A male reader, Vickidude India +, writes (27 February 2010):

Vickidude agony auntWell if the man who won the bet is human enough ,he would not demand the prize for winning the bet.

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (27 February 2010):

Illithid agony auntIt's on her honor? Well, that ship has sailed. As you say, it's slut or liar. Which is worse... to renege on a bet over a sports game, or to cheat on her husband. I agree with you, she should NOT be touching another man like that for any reason, and certainly not one like a bet.

Heck, if it's her honesty she's concerned about, what about her wedding vows where she promised to be faithful to you? Is her promise to this jerk worth more than her promise to you? If she has to go back on one, are you the less important than he is?

It was a stupid bet, but not worth wrecking a marriage over. I only hope she can see that.

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