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writes:Right some of you may say this isn't all that bigger problem but its getting in the way of things. Well me and my wife have been together since we were 16,known each other all throughout school and been married 7 years.Just recently though we have been missing each other a lot more than usual, so much infact its interfering with our work. Normally when we are at work, unless theres a reason, we don't speak. we don't work together, by the way, i work about a 10 minute car ride from where she does and she works a 5 minute walk away from where we live.She's had a long holiday as she's a teacher and i try to get my holidays from work when ever i can to fit in with hers, but even during the summer holidays i have been at work and it wasn't necessarly a problem then. We have become a lot more attacted resently, we haven't really been having sex more but have been wanting to be with each other a lot more just general cuddling or doing stuff together. yet in the holidays this didn't happen but when we are at home although as i've said we are more attacted we are able to do things seperatly and it not bother us.What can we do, we don't want to stop being like we are but at the same time we don't want it to interfere with other things and would like to be able to go out and enjoy being with others. That's my first question.My second is she's going on a trip with the school for the weekend in a few weeks and she was a little bit upset actually of the thought of going without me so what can we do to make it through that weekend? We will be able to ring each other but only at a convenient time.Please help and btw we have no trust issues we have always trusted each other, this is just something thats suddenly come on but has got worse than it should of.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (24 September 2007):
 This is so great, but you have to set your limits. I know its wonderful getting to see each other more often and do more things. Remember, it's not the amount of time you get to spend it's what you do with the time you have.
This behavior is normal, and wonderful too. You have the relationship most would trade you spots to experience. There is love, then there is absolute true love. You're experiencing something wonderful, instead of just being in love, your love continues to grow to an extremely high level. I've only talked to a few people who have experienced this. They love each other very, very much, but for some reason almost daily their love grows to a new high. That's the feeling your having now. This new high, created a new and wonderful experience with the person you're with every time.
Enjoy it, I think you're going to be on cloud 9 for quite a few years. I'm glad I had a chance to read your story, This intensity is not heard of much, the more people are just willing to settle.
I wish you a happy future.
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reader, Sandman +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Wow. First of all, I'm not sure how to respond. It seems that your marriage is what others WISH their marriage was like. A deep, personal connection to your spouse SO MUCH that you can't imagine spending a second without them! THAT'S DEEP!
I don't know. At least for the weekend trip - perhaps she can take a laptop computer or something and you guys can video conference each other during the trip. That way you get to talk AND see other (you will both need to have some type of high speed internet connection and have access to computers).
As far as wanting to spend more time with each other that it's affecting work - not sure. It seems that you two aren't that far from each other. So maybe you can schedule yourselves to have lunch together on certain days. Maybe you can just call each other during your breaks to check in to hear her voice (she to hear your voice).
I think this is so sweet that you both are so attached after 7 years. I'm not sure if this is what you were asking, but wanting to decrease the amount of time you're spending together COULD backlash. I mean, if you two can find a way to be functional at work, and still manage to get some time together on the phone or on the computer when you're away - then I think that might be your better option. If you try to decrease the amount of time you spend together, you run the risk of the reverse happening - NOT wanting to spend time with each other.
I don't know. Any other aunt's wanna weigh in on this? This one's got me stumped.
Hope this helps.
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reader, jtaunton5410 +, writes (24 September 2007):
 Oh my gosh, you guys have a wonderful relationship. I dont think that you two need any relationship advice. Most couples want to spend time away because they are annoyed of the other person. You two are actually truly in love. I think that is wonderful. There is nothing worng with being so attatched to that special someone. Of course the two of you are going to miss ecahother when you arent together, I am like that with my boyfriend of one year. I think that you guys should think of how much the other one loves you and that should bring a great big smile on your face. I do not see any issues here, all I see is true love that will never die. I hope that in 10 years my guy and I are as happy and in love as you two are.
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