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writes:This has been weighing down on me and I really can't take it any more.. me and my 2 best friends (I have more best friends than them.. but we were the closest) aren't friends any more.. they never treated me right, they're mean to me, and etc. I have a boyfriend and they think just because I hang out with him (not more than them) that I think boys are more important than friends which isn't true and I told them they're not true friends because they don't respect me and let me live my life without them saying something about everything, so we're not friends.. but I still see them every day in school, and yes it's awkward.. It's like I don't care that we're not friends because they've always treated me like shit but a little part of me misses having people close to me and on the weekends I feel like I have no friends any more. I wish I could just not care and move on without them but it's not happening.. I try to act like I don't care also but I know I do.. and I don't know how they feel about it.. should I just keep trying to move on? I mean I feel like I only have my boyfriend now.. and I lost my best friends because of him but that's not true. I've learned that they aren't true friends and they were never really there for me so it just ended.. so why am I feeling like I need them? Will it take time or what? Thanks if you can help.
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reader, katatonik +, writes (7 December 2008):
 It's natural to want closure after losing close friends or a significant other. But if these girls never treated you right and were mean to you, they are no friends. Be glad that their negativity is gone from your life, and cultivate closer relationships with your other friends instead. Good luck =]
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (6 December 2008):
 Hi Hun
As we grow up we learn that not all the people in our lives we meet and become friends with are our true friends hunny. If as you say these friends were mean to you then they were not your true friends they were cruel and unkind, Why would any real friend want or wish to be nasty to you.
You have done nothing wrong here, You had a row about boys which at some point in life all us girls do with a friend along the way, Yes we can make-up and it may not be serious but if these friends are not kind and caring towards you in the beginning, Do you think they will ever change?
True friends will stick by you no matter what, You will be able to speak to them about private things and it should not go any further than you and them, You should be able to trust a friend with anything..The reason you are feeling this way I feel is because you are hurting anyway and this just added to your pain really.. If you need to chat hun message me, Ive been there ok I understand TAKE CARE OF YOU WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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