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My teacher kept me in for detention, kissed me and had sex with me on his desk.

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Question - (7 May 2007) 36 Answers - (Newest, 30 March 2008)
A female , anonymous writes:

I need urgent help!

I'm seeing my teacher during and after school. He gives me detension so I can see him at lunchtime. He's one of the nicest guys I've ever met, so I don't want to end this.

The other day at lunch we were kissing and had sex on his desk. It was so amazing.

What should I do?

Am I in the wrong to feel this way?

x.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008):

Call the police now, speak to your parents if you can't do that, call child line.. This person is in a position of trust and he has smashed that trust in the most appalling way

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2008):

Okay so i know i'm a bit late to give the advice, but for other girls/guys that read this and need advice i thought i should add my take on things:

Okay, so i have liked 2 of my teachers, one last year, and one this year one is 31 and married(with the most adorable newborn baby you've ever seen in your life) and i don't like him anymore. But the second teacher that i have this year is 33, and i still like him. he is single (i think, i know he isn't married and he spent valentines day with his team at soccer practice so i figure that its safe to assume he is single.) Honestly i have no problem with student/teacher relationships, although if you are 17, i would suggest waiting until you are 18 to sleep with him after all if he is willing to kiss you and have sex with you now, he should be willing to wait a little bit longer for the sex. that way he can't go to jail, and it would be harder for a lawyer, if you were caught, to make a justifiable argument against your teacher. I don't think you should hold off on the relationship, just the sex

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008):

i myself think its sick ,if was you i go straight to the poloce and tell them evry thing you know about this peedo coz thtz wot he is!!!!!!!!! trust me before yourself and your teacher getts hurt really bad and he gets nicked in fornt of you!!!! trust your instings!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2008):

What this teacher is doing is seriously wrong, not to mention illegal. He may be a great teacher, but no decent professional would abuse their position of responsibility in this way. I understand that you want to keep on seeing him, but the longer you do, the greater the chance that you will get caught. If you do eventually get found out, it will not only ruin his career (as he will never be able to teach or work with children again, and will possibly face a police enquiry) but you will lose any reputation you have built for yourself - you will always be known as "that slapper who shagged Mr So-and-So". I have no idea how old you are, but are you aware that if somebody has sex with anyone aged below 16 and there is at least 5 years age difference, then they are by definition a paedophile? Something to think about. I know you're probably into him big style but I get the feeling (as you hear about this happening time and time again), that you are probably not the first student he has slept with (unless it's his first year of teaching!) and I very much doubt you will be the last :-[ My advice is DO NOT listen to that last reply, as she probably has too little life experience to answer something so serious, and to break things off slowly with this guy - find yourself a hot 6th Former - looooads more mature than normal boys! Plus they will probably have a car too!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2008):

dont listen to that reply.

I understand how you're feeling, you should carry on aslong as you dont get caught. youd feel soooo guilty he lost his job and his reputation =[ aslong as he cares about you and knows it feels wrong but right like aslong as he wasnt too hasty at the start, THEN he would be a perverted bastard but i dont know this man so i cant judge. Theres something just so much more erotic about teachers and pupils, like your locked up in this all girls school and theyre the only male company and its like i swear all other boys are imature and skinny and just want to pull each girl once booooring. carry it on but be so cautious omg your so luckyy me and my friend keep going on about this 1 teacher hes so awesome anyway take care x =]

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008):

OMG. Okay first of all, I dont think he is nice if he had sex with yout. What kind of NICE, mature and well mannered MAN would do that? Girl , you need to think about what this can do to your future and how this will affect your family. Besides, teachers who have sex with students are nothing more than just bastards. I'm really sorry, but I just had to say it. Please dont be offended, but even thought I dont know you at all, trust me this is for your own good. TELL UR PARENTS. although theyll be pissed at you for acting foolish, you will be forgiven. REPORT HIM TO THE COPS is what you need to do as well. Good luck. I hope you make the right choice.

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A female reader, danielle rudolph United States +, writes (23 December 2007):

danielle rudolph agony auntOw my gosh, you need to report him before he rapes another girl. report him to the cops!!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007):

if i was u i would at lest get a room the last think u whant is the headteacher or anyone eles walking in. go and arange to see him somewere it is better for you and no one will fid out. make sure u don't do anything silly for your helth. this is the best advice i can say. you don't have to follow my advice but its for the best.

harvey mcdonald

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007):

Hi,

As you're 17 and he's in his 20's it isn't necessarily wrong in terms of age difference, but is is wrong to carry on whilst you're at school.

If you think it is serious, then tell him, find out what he wants with you and if it is real, then agree to stop seeing each other until you have finished school and take it from there.

Take care x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007):

keep doing it until someone finds out (up,down,up,down)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007):

well wat is the age difference

i fancy a teacher but i wouldn't have sex with him or anything like that no your not wrong for feeling that way

cuz you can't help who you fall in love with. xxx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2007):

Are u nuts? Tell your parents and report him, better yet make sure you have some proof and get this stopped at once!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2007):

hey man, i fancy my teacher but if he EVER came onto me i'd so go off him and think him to be a total creep! do you really want to be the one who ran off with the teacher?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2007):

go for it girl lmao

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007):

Thats dirty. Report the dirty sod to the police.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2007):

Are you sure this isn't all in your mind, sweetheart?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007):

lol u are defently in the wrong i just found this site by accident anyway seriously u beter stop what u are doing IS ILLIGAL if u get busted which u eventualy will he'll go to jail for a while o and u lucky i would love to get down wit some teachers at school lol that aside its rape ur underage and hes an adult if he was serious he would stop. cause secretly all boy's and males just want woman for fun you have to tell ur parents about this and hopefully they won't charge him with moelestion or u could always go with plan b lol have him quit and u run away then get together lol ok enough jokes do u no what diesease u can get from soem guy who prabaly picks up hookers?i mean think before u act because u can get pregnant and guess what IF u do get pregnant he'll dump you and u migth end up on the streets. so ya you better stop for both of ur sakes mainly urs .

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A female reader, Pinkbees09 United States +, writes (7 October 2007):

Pinkbees09 agony auntYour going to get hurt in the end so just stop this whle you can/ It's not wrong to have these feelings but it is wrong to have sex with your teacher.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2007):

listen, i have done exactly the same as you, except not in the class room. My teacher actually invited me round and took me out. We had fun, and didnt sleep together all the time. He always wanted to see me, and we just had fun in eachothers cimpany. So make the right decision cos, I didnt and now i would do anything for him to be back to me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007):

You need to tell someone babe! Don't be pressured into becoming a sicko's toy. Have you actually been on a date? Do you talk? Was the sex just suddenly there? Tell a trusted friend, parent or counciller. XxxX

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A male reader, hey United States +, writes (17 July 2007):

stop having sex with your teacher, its wrong and it will never last! grow up lil girl!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007):

This is not a real question.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2007):

you need to go to your counselor and tell what happened or if you have a student hotline call it, this is not normal for a teacher and you are probably not the only one this is happening to, you don't want to get pregnant or find out that you have some nasty sexual disease from him having mulitple partners. you don't need to keep this a secret, it is not a good one to keep.

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A female reader, Pork Hock Canada +, writes (9 May 2007):

When you become a teacher you are suppossed to inform, teach, be an integral part of your life, this doesn't mean taking advantage or initiating a time alone...this is completely unacceptable. This man should be reported.

I hope he isn't in this profession to ensure he can enable situations like this again? You need to report him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007):

ur not wrong to have these feelings for your teacher but ask yourself isit worth it? he could get arrested and if your not using protection you could get pregnant so think about it

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007):

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Thanks for the advice. Im going to break up with him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007):

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Thanks for the advice. Im going to break up with him.

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A male reader, sleepyhollow American Samoa +, writes (8 May 2007):

Oh, and in regards to a sex tape...

Given the type of predatory personality that is required to have sex with a student placed under their care, he is probably wanting a souvenir that he can show his buddies to prove that he's banging one of his students.

Sex tapes always come back to haunt you. If you ignore all other advice given to separate yourself from him, do yourself a favor and don't make the tape.

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A female reader, xoTrineyxo United States +, writes (8 May 2007):

xoTrineyxo agony auntPersonally i think its wrong enough that you two are having sexual relations. And i strongly advise you not to make a sex tape. Who could find it? Perhaps your parents, teacher's friends, principal... then you could both be in seriuos trouble

pce xox

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A male reader, sleepyhollow American Samoa +, writes (7 May 2007):

Stop having sex with your teacher. Period. You'd be surprised at how confusing the teacher-student dynamics can make you feel in regards to sexual attraction. In 10 years or even 3 or 4 years, you'll look back and wonder how you ever felt anything for him.

As for him, he should exercise the self control of an adult and not engage in potentially harmful interactions with minors. While not all teacher-student relationships of this nature are harmful, most are, because the dominant component is usually seeking sexual satisfaction, and will move on to other prey sooner than later. The psychological damage to young women tends to be almost as bad as molestation, with their early and middle adult years being affected. This will also affect your ability to form real and lasting relationships in the future, with a tendency toward promiscuous behavior and infidelity, along with massive trust issues, among other things.

If you don't want to get him in trouble, end it quietly. Seek out a trustworthy counselor who will not turn him in, and start talking about your feelings. Get to know yourself better, so you don't end up in the same situation. Stuff like this has a tendency to become a lifelong pattern.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007):

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I don't think he's being perverted. I liked what we done and would do it again.

Im not underage, Im 17 and he's only in his late 20s.

He askd me to make a sex tape with him and Im considering it.

What do you think?

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (7 May 2007):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think someone is playing out a school girl fantasy here. Sex on the teacher's desk, at lunchtime no less?

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A female reader, kim6906 United Kingdom +, writes (7 May 2007):

ur teacher sounds like a pervert there is a word for people like him sleeping with under age children u need to get out of this while u can he is manipulating ur trust he should be reported sicko

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007):

How old are you? This is very much wrong! If you are under age, you should go to see the police at once!

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A female reader, danicalifornia United Kingdom +, writes (7 May 2007):

How OLD are you? Jeez... PERVERT!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007):

thats wrong! whats the age diffrence between you both? write back?

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