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anonymous
writes:i love my teacher and i am so close to her, the other day she had her head on my shoulder and if i just turned my head i could of easily kissed her, i nearly did, i was sweating, my hands were shaking and everything! i love her immensely and man just want to kiss her, if i just do a small peck on the cheek, that would be okay right? im sure she wouldnt mind? shes gay so she may like it? im confused help
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reader, Leanna +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Do you have any idea how much of a big deal this could be?!
I mean, seriously, are you understanding anything these people are saying to you? Do you think you're both going live happily ever after? You are wrong.
This woman is not going to risk her career that she's worked hard for all for a silly little girl like you.
You need to grow up and have some sense here. You're putting yourself in a situation that is going to blow up your face very soon.
If you care for this woman at all then you'll stay the hell away from her and stop trying to wreck her career.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI dont know, she was helping me with a question and she put her head on my shoulder and then I turned and was lyk looking at her, then she goes 'what?' as if I was doing something wrong, but then she carried on and then pulled away after I had finished the question, but she always flirts with me and I do it back but never really gets any futher than that, apart from when she was had her hands on my back when I moved around and held them there for a while, but then moved back
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (25 April 2008):
 no u shouldnt, thts like me goin up to my teacher who i have a thing for and giving him a big smacker on the cheek, u jst dont do tht, sorry but say someone sees it? or u tell sumeone who then tells sumeonie else or they over hear u tellin tht person... do u see wht im sayin? runours will start someone always finds out in the end, thts the piece of advice i was gave ages ago and it is bloody well true! ppl always do find out!so no dont jepordise her career, and no do not tell her or whatever tht u like her if ur planning to do so. sorry if im sounding harsh, bt teachers can esdily loose their jobs over nothin thee days so if someonme witnessed this tht would be it for her, and plus.. wht happens afte rhte kiss on the cheek? surely u dnt expect more? or to kiss her often? it aint gonan happen unless she is in teachin for the wrong reasons, which i dobut. but why did she have her head on you?? tht sounds a bit... yknow.wbxx
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reader, phiatiger +, writes (25 April 2008):
Frankly....no, how hard is that? Ifthis teacher has any sense she will avoid you if she even knows you have feelings for her, unfortunately you have the potential to turn her whole life upside down. She is the one that will get indecently labelled.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (24 April 2008):
 No problem phiatiger, all ok still.
To the poster.. Do you understand what we're sayin in anyway?
All it takes is 1 little kiss, even on the cheek and bamn, it all goes so wrong so quick.
Do you really think no one will ever find out. You know nothin about what it could cause in any way apart from make you feel better and happy. Stop thinkin about how you would feel for once and think about your teacher, her job, her life (she may have a record after you do it) and it doesnt stop there, there's more.
Why continue to think you would get away with it when deep down inside, you know you cant.
Lets say you did kiss her.. then what? It may not get out the same day but in the end it will. It will eat at your teacher every second of every day till she cant cope no longer and will tell someone (headmaster) then all hell breaks loose.
Their could always be Camera's installed through out the school too so they will know about it one way or the other.
Why not wait just abit longer till your no longer in that school, you dont have long to wait so it would be best to wait till then and after you leave no one here or your friends can say out to change your mind about it. Wouldnt that be alot better?
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reader, Tisha-1  + ♥, writes (24 April 2008):
 This is a very serious issue for any teacher because it could cause them to lose their jobs, their livelihoods, effectively end a career. Is that worth one little kiss? I rather think not.
You need to think about this from the other person's perspective, I know it's difficult when you have such strong feelings, but it is important that you understand what could happen to a teacher who has inappropriate contact with a student. Try to have some empathy for what she or he might face in such a situation. It's part of growing up that you experience strong and unusual feelings, but it's also part of growing up to experience frustration and the fact that you can't always get what you want. (Isn't that a song lyric? :-D)
We're not telling you not to have these feelings, we're trying to help you put them in context and understand that consequences follow behavior. Does that make any sense?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Jeese Louise kid, what part of NO, NEVER, NOPE, and NOT HARDLY don't you understand?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif no one knew about then ?
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reader, phiatiger +, writes (24 April 2008):
Sorry Andrew, I dont usually read previous posts so that my opinion is not influenced, I do agree with what you have said.
For the poster: You dont care enough about her to value her job then?
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (23 April 2008):
First of all, phiatiger you could have agreed with me on it, would have been less for you to type and i said all that... But ok.
Ok, back to the poster..
I dont mean to go on and on about it.. What dont you get about this?
If you OR even your teacher make this in to somethin you really know cant happen till you leave school, she WILL lose her job AND will be unable to teach again... ever.
Is that alot clear for you.
You came here and asked for advice and so we're givin you that advice BUT if you rather go for it and have her lose the job she has now, then no one can stop you.. Just think about it before you do out..
What if she loose's her job over somethin you did?
What if your wrong about this?
What if your family knows about what you did?
Can you live with it all?
They're just some of the things that come to my mind alone but there's alot more people here that will tell you the samething i have and phiatiger has aswell.
People want to kiss or even date their teachers and they post here for help and advice about it and they're still in school, they was given advice and even help on the matter but the same thing was said to them as we're sayin to you, There isnothin that can happen as long as your still in school, till you leave you cannot have out to do with her, i mean no hugin, no kissin well not even a relationship apart from friendship.. Friends help out, help with homework, talk to them about alot of things but they dont go kissin their teachers.
I'm very sorry but thats the way it is TILL you leave school, their isnt out you can do.
Please think about all this long and hard because it is in no way funny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionif she was breaking the code of conduct or whatever then surely i could just go in there? man its killing me i saw her again today in this really short skirt, shes so fit! and she is gay so i really dont understand the problem i need more advice
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reader, phiatiger +, writes (23 April 2008):
Really she was breaking her code of conduct by having her head on your shoulder.....she really needs to be careful her job is on the line here. Setting age aside she is still in the authoritive position and she could lose her job if she is seen as abusing that.
Sorry to be the barer of bad news but you should get these thoughts out of your head and dont put yourself in a situation whilst you are still at school, once you have left and she is not teaching you, you can do what you want.
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reader, Andrew83 +, writes (22 April 2008):
It's not weather she minds, she cant have out to do with students (relationship wise and even kissin), she could lose her job over it all.
Till you leave school you cannot have out to do with your teacher and the other way around, sorry.
Once you do leave, then it would be ok as to what i know.
This is only based on secondary school, collage is somethin else.
Hope this helps
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