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13-15,
maddierose
writes:My teacher is a complete flirt. he's admitted to thinking schoolgirls are fit ?? and also been suspernded once for texting a pupil and for drinking at school. this is all true for a fact by the way not rumours. after all this. how can i still love him? why? its not like the fact that hes abit of a "rebel" impresses me coz im not that pure myself. i dont understand. but i have no morals and i know i would take a chance if it pops up. and concidering his past.. oh god im so confused. why am i such a stupid person? sometimes i just dont see the point. someone help me figure this out in my head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): You're attracted to him. Great. To tell you the truth that's kind of normal in your position.
But that doesn't mean the normal-ness of your attraction is any justification to act on it. You know that you want to do this, but you (already know) that it's probably just a bad idea. Deep down you know you'll eventually just be another score for a guy who is BAD NEWS in the long run.
So you want to get with this "fun" guy.
And I would also really like to kill my neighbor with an axe because he's a total jerk and he plays his music too loud.
Now both of us have to do what civilized and mature people do: Refrain from acting on our instincts at certain times when deep down we know these instincts are just going to get us into trouble. For you, staying away from this guy is a much bigger sign of maturity than going after him.
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reader, maddierose +, writes (4 December 2007):
maddierose is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou so much for your answers, unfortunately i was a little drunk when i posted this (hence y ive already posted a similar question). I'm going to try and forget about it all, it'll be difficult but realising that other teachers (who already have a strong disliking for me) will judge and my grades might totally plunge iv'e decided school is already alot of trouble without all that aswell, im already being bullied and that kind of thing to your name doesnt help! and your quite right, if i had no morals why would i be second questioning? normally things are straight forward to me. i guess its the first time ive ever been totally confused with my feelings. I'm going to try so hard to get him out of my head and if he makes any move at all i will force myself to tell someone. thankyou everyone
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reader, hello1  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 How many times are you going to ask this? your obviously not taking our advice so go ahead and do what you want too, but rememeber your another notch on his very young bed post. Pedo alert
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): If you really had no morals as you say, you wouldn't be asking someone about it.So go with the gut and get this creep out of the school.Flynn 24
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (4 December 2007):
 He's a rebel, he's a bad-boy, he's forbibben fruit, he's an authority figure, he's Svengali, he's a daddy replacement, he's an older man. You would be teacher's pet, top of the class, Lolita, the bad girl, and it's a big adrenaline rush, to do something verboten and naughty, etc. It's a big fantasy, but the reality is that there always have been and probably always will be teachers who are pervs and they are ALL Losers. Guys who hit on underage girls usually are striking out with women their own age because they see him for the jerk that he is (on his little-girl ego trip). Is it a good idea to act on it? If his judgement is this bad, how can you trust him to be disease-free? I have a family member who lost out on having a family because of the HPV virus, so it does happen! I wouldn't say that you aren't that pure or don't have morals, but I would say that you are easily impressed and can do things for the wrong reason (to impress others; possibly your school mates, some kind of ego-trip; that you "got" him?). You ARE smart enough to consider it before doing it, so in fact, you DO have morals! You could be suspended, he could lose his job, the teachers who know him for the ass that he is will not think much of you and your grades could take a hit (I know someone who did a very critical speech about his school and dropped 10% on his next report card... seriously). You sound very mature for your age. I know that you already know what to do in this situation. I had a teacher like this when I was 12. When I went back at the ripe old age of 17 and ran into him again, he was even creepier than I had remembered and still hitting on little girls! It was pathetic! It's amazing who they let teach sometimes. Often these guys walk a fine line and don't exhibit the "questionable" behaviour in front of adults and that is how they fly in under the radar. Please don't put yourself in a position where you are alone with him. Take good care of yourself with the decisions that you make for yourself.
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reader, Collaroy  + ♥, writes (4 December 2007):
 There is nothing wrong with you at all. I used to go nuts about one of my teacher's when I was at school. I could hardly think straight. But time passed and eventually I didnt go to school anymore.
But then I became a teacher myself and saw it from a different angle. Teacher's are in a position of power and that power is very seductive to students.
Don't worry about this teacher though, if he has been suspended already chances are they are waiting for him to slip up again and then its Jail time.
Believe me you dont want to be involved in this, your parents will have to go with you to court,his defence will be that you lead him on and that you are a girl of loose values who seduced him, believe me it will be humilitiating for you. Don't live under any impression that there is any other eventuality but this happening. This guy will slip up and all involved will be dragged to court to sling his butt into jail. Let this creep make his own mistake without involving you.
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reader, Heartly  +, writes (4 December 2007):
 First of all ..You should in NO WAY get involved with this person ! He will only break your heart ! And you should love yourself enough to not do that to yourself. Second , if hes been in trouble for it before , you should report him to someone if he does try anything ! He has obviosly got some issues ! Third.. think of the trouble and emotoinal asspects IF and WHEN it ever got out to the public ! And you said you dont have any morals so it doesnt matter... Well I think you do or you wouldnt be confused about what to do !!!!! You are probly only attacted to him because hes a " PLAYER ".. just find one your age ! LOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): Peadophillia is wrong.
That is all.
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