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My supposed friends are spreading rumors about me and a teacher. How do I stop this?

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Question - (3 February 2013) 10 Answers - (Newest, 9 February 2013)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *ranny1297 writes:

Im not the type of person to get bullied, i rarely ever do, i can't handle rumors properely, especially if their big ones. These two girls that are supposed to be my 'friends' spread a rumor saying that i like a teacher, and that i've been doing disgusting stuff with him, the've told quite a few people, and those few people have belived them. Al the time, every time the ask, 'hows Mr ****** ?' then start laughing.

But one thing that's horrible is that, even when i do tell the truth, it looks like im lying, and when im lying it still looks like im lying. so when they ask me "do you like him" or "have you had sex with him" i say "no i haven't", and then it looks like im lying, so they take as i do like him, and they go roung telling everyone.

take in mind that this teacher im talking about, i don't like him, he's kind in his 40's and no-one likes him. it's just no. so how can i overcome this rumor? how should i act, when they ask me this stupid question? what should i do, what so i do? any help will do???? thankss xxxx

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A female reader, Nay_ox United Kingdom +, writes (9 February 2013):

Speak to your parents about these witches, and ignore the gossip. I would recommend you keep a diary with anything inappropriate they say with the date, time and where they say these nasty things about you. Report the bullies to a member of staff. I don't think you will get into trouble if you haven't said anything wrong. If anyone takes it for granted, leave it as they're concern and let everyone know it's not true.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2013):

Same thing happening to me(from the US) look I'm ignoring the people, but I can't tell anyone because I can't trust the gossip-ridden adults that "teach" my school. Good luck, and as someone else said- they're not ur friends, don't let them control how u feel

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A female reader, franny1297 United Kingdom +, writes (4 February 2013):

franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

franny1297 agony auntThank you everyone!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2013):

This is bigger than you can handle alone, and good for you in reaching out and asking for help!

The best thing you can do to stop this is to confide in your parents and a school counselor immediately. These girls are not thinking how serious this could actually become and many lives could be ruined because they thought they were just being soooo funny. Teachers are listening, they may not seem obvious, but they listen to what the students are saying and eventually it's going to get to them and will snowball terribly.

These girls are NOT your friends. You owe them nothing and they need to be stopped and someone needs to point out and explain what their behavior is doing to someone else.

This teacher could get fired and it could really ruin his adult life....he could have a wife, kids, a home, adult responsibilities and if he loses his job over these mean girls?

I'm sorry this happened to you, but you stay strong and fight this. You don't deserve to be treated like this and you have the power to stop it. Don't give those girls any more power to control you or the situation.

It would be so awesome if you would let us know the outcome!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 February 2013):

Honeypie agony auntI agree with Caring guy, talk to your school counselor and your parents, this needs to be nipped in the bud and these GIRLS need to know that it is NOT OK to start these kind of rumors. HE can lose his job and you your reputation, all for a few laughs... Not right.

What a bunch of witches!

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A female reader, franny1297 United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2013):

franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

franny1297 agony auntThankyou so much everyone, I will take all of your advice.

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A female reader, fi_the_tree United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2013):

fi_the_tree agony auntWhen they ask you the question again, your reply will always be 'grow up' that way you are not rising to their bullying. The longer you don't react to their bullying, they quicker they will get bored and try it on someone else. The others are right though, you should tell your parents and a teacher you trust at school that you are being bullied by these girls.

Don't rise to it, tell them to grow up whenever they ask you a daft question, try and focus on schoolwork. The girls will soon get bored

Good luck :)

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A female reader, tryingtohelp2013 United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2013):

Wow okay, some friends. You need to tell your parents / head teacher about this otherwise your teacher could lose their job. Also, this isn't fair on you, and they aren't really real friends if they do this, are they?

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A female reader, franny1297 United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2013):

franny1297 is verified as being by the original poster of the question

franny1297 agony auntThanks soo much, I will!

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (3 February 2013):

I would strongly urge you to tell your parents what is happening, and also either your head of year or the headteacher. For two reasons:

1 - Because if the rumours continue to spread, you and the teacher might suddenly be investigated.

2 - Because you need to have this bullying sorted.

Go and tell the head of year or headteacher.

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