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writes:okay this is going to sound petty but i am worried and i have been told once before on this site, if you are uncomfatable, go with your instinct.here is what happened. my aunty remarried a few years ago to a man we'll call "rocky"..i went round with my family to their house for christmas day.i was with my cousin who i am really close with (she female were really close friends) and i was under the mistletoe and she came up to me and kissed me on the cheek and i kissed her on the cheek, which was all fine ive known her all her life!! then my stepuncle comes up to me (were not that close and i don't like him becasue i think he is innapropriate with me and me cousin) and kissed me on the kiss, but the way he did it, he lingered on my cheek... and the look on his face when he did it..i was seriously uncomfatable.. i dont want to cause any arguments between family but i know exacty what happened and i know it was not right...i need to sorts of advice. was this innapropriate?if so what should i do (as it wasn't that bad)i know it must sound petty but i feel upset about it.thankyou to anyone who answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionand in answer to Dawnie's question. by innapropriate before i mean like he is very touchy feely with my younger cousin, always picking her up and smacking her bottom and wrestling her to the floor and tickling her, he did this until she was about 13. now he just insults her all the time. and he tried to be the same with me but i was always on my guard (we had to live with them for about 3 months and me and him argued ALL THE TIME) my sister also told me that on his wedding day he kissed her (my sister is mentally ill so i never know what t believe with her but at the time of telling me she wasn't really ill, she had already started recovery)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone for your advice. i am so nervous but i wil tell someone in my family, any adivice on how to tell them? oh my god i'm so scared.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (26 December 2007):
 I'm with Dawnie and the anonymous poster. They have given you the advice you need. I just would like to say that this is not petty at all. You have done the right thing in asking for advice on how to handle it. You need to be safe.
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reader, Dawnie  + ♥, writes (26 December 2007):
 Well i don't think you are being petty at all. You feel uncomfortable with this man and there must be a reason for this. Usually our gut instincts are correct and i would take notice of this. You say that your step uncle has been inapropriate with you and your cousin before, in what way?
If he has been sexual with either of you, then he should be reported whether you go to your family or police.
If this is a one off and you just don't feel comfortable near him, make sure you are NEVER alone with him and tell him you don't like it.Your cousin i presume is his step daughter and lives with him? As far as your question about whether this was inappropriate is concerned, i would say it was simply because of the way he made you feel, to be made uneasy by a simple kiss is wrong. I hope this has helped, and please do not hesitate to speak to your own family if you feel the need, also speak to your cousin and check that she is ok. Good luck. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2007): tell who ever you know like your mother or father, just say that you're uncomfortable about it and they could talk to you. no one on here could help you like someone you know could. good luck sweetheart.
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