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My step daughter is flirting with me, making me all hot and bothered

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Question - (19 December 2009) 9 Answers - (Newest, 19 December 2009)
A male age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I am 47 years old and after being divorced for almost ten years I remarried a women who has a 18 year old daughter. She is college now but when she comes home she flirts with me. My sex life with my wife has become almost non exsistant and she rarely even acknowledges that I am even speaking to her. My stepdaughter comes out of the shower in only a towel and sometimes flashes me a peak.then she smiles and goes to her room. I know I should not be attracted to her but why does she do that, The other day she exposed her breasts to me while her mom was gone and ask me If they were pretty. I didnt know what to say.

she has told me about having oral sex with a couple of her boy friends and I tried to give her advice about being careful and about practicing safe sex. It has gotten to the point that her flirting gets me hot and bothered and I end up masturbating. I dontwant to ruin my marriage and I dont want her mother to know what iis going on because it would make a bad situation worse. what should I do.

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A female reader, To A New Life United States +, writes (19 December 2009):

If everything you have stated is true, then a nanny cam is your best chance, incase you'll need proof, some where in time.

No one knows for a "fact" that she is 18 years old and purposely firts with you, nor that her mom is not interested in sex with you. These are your statements.

IT IS A KNOWN FACT AMONG LAW ENFORCERS:

1. All pedafiles believes the children purposely firts and seduces them.

2. Many will only marry single moms with young children.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009):

Get a nanny cam and film what's going on, be defensive and repulsed on the tape. Tell you're wife that this has been going on for a while and that you fear her daughter needs mental treatment. tell her that you had to resort to filming the event because you had repeatedly told her to STOP this behavior and wanted proof to bring her so that she wouldn't believe the BS that her mentally ill daughter is trying to spread.

Then get the daughter kicked out of the house and cut off- bye bye problem!

If you haven't figured it out she's trying to set you up to get rid of you...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009):

She is probably trying to ruin things for you and her mum. After all you're the step dad. Teens can't handle these situations they tend to be confused. You have to talk to her. Find out why she is doing it. And try not to be attracted otherwise you'll be just as weak. After all you're the adult. Set an example. Hope things work out

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009):

Hmm; as CG said, your marriage sounds pretty well ruined anyway. What is your wife's problem with sex?

You could always try telling her that if SHE isn't up for sex you will get it from her daughter!

Then go for it........

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A male reader, Heartbroken in love United States +, writes (19 December 2009):

if you don't put an end to it right now than it will eventually go to farm. You either need to nip it in the but and figure out your sex life with your wife or you need to divorce. If you want to mess around with an 18 year old tease after your divorce that's your business. My opinion? It will do you more bad than good

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A female reader, pancakes rule Ireland +, writes (19 December 2009):

pancakes rule agony aunttell your wife, you are only the step father and may not be as authoritative to her as her mother, if she doesn't stop then you should tell her not to do things like show you her breasts because you are not interested (I know you said you're a bit attracted but morally it would be wrong if you did anything so just tell her that anyway).

You should work on your marriage, confront your wife, maybe get counseling.

Good luck and keep us updated.

xx

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada + , writes (19 December 2009):

C. Grant agony auntYou're only human, so don't beat yourself up because her teasing is getting to you. So far you're doing the right thing -- staying adult and not letting her see that she's getting to you. Keep it up -- you can't help that you're attracted to her, but you CAN control how you respond.

It's interesting that you say you don't want to ruin your marriage when, on your second time around, you have no sex life. Honestly I wonder if that isn't a bigger problem than an 18 year-old tease?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (19 December 2009):

Honeypie agony auntI think you need to nip it in the but right now. Tell your step-daughter to quit and you might also tell your wife - she will know one way or another.

As far as your sex life that is something you need to talk to your wife about. Why her libido is gone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009):

Next time she flashes you tell her to stop it, and have a conversation saying that it is wrong for her to do so x

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