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My step brother and I are having sex! what should I do?

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Question - (20 December 2007) 17 Answers - (Newest, 24 April 2010)
A female Australia age 18-21, anonymous writes:

im Annabelle and im 14. about 3 nights ago my brother (jayden) and i were home alone and he got me drunk. i remember him getting into bed with me. jayden is 16. he started touching me and then kissing me, but because stupidly i was drunk i kissed back and in like 4 mins, we were having sex together. i already had a boyfriend, Jesse, who had called me in the morning to go to the movies with me. when i woke up my head was on jays chest. i freaked out at first, but then it all came back to me. So when i was in the shower jayden came in and acted like nothing was going on. i guess i kind of like him, and i let him touch me. we ended up having about 10 minuets of sex. it stopped when the doorbell rang. I got changed and let jesse in. as jesse went upstairs ( i changed in a black cut tee and white shorts) i went to jayden's room to tell him that we where going to the movie. he thought that we(jesse and i)were just friends. i walked in and he just pushed his tongue in my mouth. i told him to stop, and he replied with "we are soo not finished, i can not wait till this afternoon"

i remembered that mum and my step-dad were coming home with my older brother from his collage. So it came to the afternoon and i was dropped home. surprisingly mum and dad were home. a few days passed and both me and jesse and me jayden both got closer. i remember the day when jesse and i first had sex together. i told my other brother to not walk in and tell mum and dad that i was busy. i was pressed against the wall with my tee about to come off while jesse and i kissing heavily when there all of a sudden jayden appeared. all of us were shouting "OMG" and then jayden slammed the door walking out. i followed him into his room. then jayden came up to me and looked me in the eyes, then he slaps me! then he tells me things like "i should of been in there not him". he doesn't realies that we can not be together. he wouldn't look at me or do anything to me, but 1 day passed and it was like he forgot about it and we had sex again,

i dont know what i should do!! help please we are all soo close again!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010):

Tell you'r boyfriend or an adult, You should get help with you'r brother.

Goodluck hon and remember honesty always wins.

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A male reader, Tony-X United Kingdom +, writes (24 December 2009):

One, why the hell are you having sex at 14 in the first place.

Two,well that's basically it...

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009):

what u have together is wrong. sooner or later jesse is goiing to find out, so u need to decide if your step-brother is worth it. jayden sounds horrible and depending on his age you two having sex may be illegal. i think you should tell jayden that it will never work and that you love jesse.

you are only 14! you shouldnt of even had sex yet! but we arent here to judge you we are here to help you so i think you should read everyones advice and make a decision. the sooner the better!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2009):

if u feel comfortable wit him go on its sex ....... sex is to have fun

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009):

IN YOUR SHOES......

I know most ppl think its sick , but the truth is its happenes. My step brother and i had the same relationship. We've always found one another attractive, But never thought we'd end up sleeping together.

I love him dearly, but realistically it will never work out. your family wont accept it and things will become weird. As much as we cared for one another we sat down and spoke about how we need to forget everything and go back to the way things were, that it would be better for everyone... we also both had partners at the time.

It was hard, we tried but at first it didnt seem to help. We couldnt stay away from one another. but over time we kept reminding ourselves that this is wrong, we supported one another. We're still great friends but look back on what we did as a silly fantasy.

Good luck , i hope my story helps

A friend!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2008):

Get some help and say we cant do this .

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008):

this person really doesn't seem like a real child at all and the text seems fabricated. I really hope it is, and isn't a case of an older boy raping a younger girl. if you are some 40 year old bastard who gets his jollies fantasizing about children being raped I hope you get caught and put away along time. Sex offenders should have their sex organs removed. and if you really are just a young girl in this situation, stop having sex you are too young, and your brother is raping you. tell an adult this cannot go on your life will be ruined!

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A female reader, lovehate United Kingdom +, writes (27 December 2007):

lovehate agony auntStop having sex with one of them. Follow your heart. Do the RIGHT thing and don't be let taken advantage of!

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A female reader, muffy United States +, writes (24 December 2007):

muffy agony auntok,this is a lot of pressure for you.your step-brother is a dirty pig who needs to take a bath.poor jesse,you really should break up with him.if he asks why,just say that your doing him a favor.as for jayden,tell him "no" or to "stop" because you guys are step brother and sister and its pretty wrong.if he doesnt stop then i guess you should tell.

i hope i helped

love and kisses

feel free to message me whenever you need something

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A female reader, uhhhhey United States +, writes (23 December 2007):

uhhhhey agony auntThe only thing I can tell you is to follow your heart and make a decision between the two as quickly as you can. If you continue with this, it'll only become worse and more painful when the truth comes out because you'll be so attached to both of them. I think you should make a list of the negatives and positives of being with Jesse, and the same for Jayden. I have to say, being in a relationship with your step brother is a little tricky sounding, and you'll probably struggle a lot with other people telling you it's weird. You're probably just 'liking' Jayden because he's conveinent and obviously pushing really hard to make you guys a couple or whatever. In my opinion, Jayden is creepy. I think you need to step back and look at what's going on. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve this, you're causing him pain and yourself pain because of the guilt you're letting build up.

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A female reader, danielle rudolph United States +, writes (23 December 2007):

danielle rudolph agony auntgo to youre friend house or always try to stay away from him. if it gets bad you need to tell someone!

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A female reader, ladycharm United Kingdom +, writes (20 December 2007):

ladycharm agony auntfirst of all this is classed as rape where i come from and you step brother is in the wrong you should tell somebody as soon as possible its not right and its not your fault you never done anything wrong please talk to someone before things get out of hand he has to know this is wrong good luck and i hoped this helped

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A female reader, i might be a girl but i can help United Kingdom +, writes (20 December 2007):

i might be a girl but i can help agony auntOMG your step-brother is sick and like everyone has said finish with jesse its not fair you are cheating on him, and its like a soap-orph. your brother took advantage and than made you feel bad and you made it up having sex with him again, what are you doing?. you know its wrong, you can catch something and pass it on to jesse or your brother. you need to tell someone about your brother finish with jesse before he catches you and gets hurt more.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (20 December 2007):

TasteofIndia agony auntDefinitely dump Jesse, because what you're doing to him is NOT FAIR in the least. If he knew what you were doing on the side, he would freak out and be hurt to no end. Do him a favor and break up with him. As for your step-brother, he is taking advantage of you, since he's older and you're a little more vulnerable and naive. However, you're certainly not HELPING the situation. You kind of seem to be egging it on.

He's SLAPPING you? And you're taking it?

Tell your Mom you don't feel comfortable around Jayden and that you don't want to spend time with him. Don't put yourself into these situations.

When you're older, this is going to come back to haunt you. So do your older self a favor and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Put a stop to it. Tell your step-brother "no", tell him to "stop" and if he doesn't, tell the cops, tell your parents. Tell your older brother from college. Tell someone who can help you.

Good luck, sweetness.

xxIndia

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007):

Good advice above. What can you do, stop being so easy and having sex with either of these boys, try keeping your knees together, I hear it works.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2007):

Hi Annabelle.

You need to consider the consequences of having sex at your age, particularly contracting the Human Papilloma Virus (HPV) which can lead to cancer of the cervix in later years. That's a potentially deadly disease. Do you really want to run the risk? You don't if you're sensible.

Any guy who has to get a girl drunk to have sex with her is a slimeball, particularly a 14 year old.

You should tell your parents what he's doing to you and let them sort this out. It's far to much grief to carry on your shoulders alone at your age.

Phil

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A female reader, x.BrokenxHearts.x United Kingdom +, writes (20 December 2007):

x.BrokenxHearts.x agony auntFirst of all get rid of Jesse!! You're just using him and cheating on him it's pathetic!!

And what would your mum do if she found out about you and Jayden?!

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