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writes:I've got two sisters one is 58 and the other is 53. Recently my older sister finds out her husband has fallen in love with my other sister. She is upset about it but have no courage to confront them. I want to help but dont know where to start. Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, TimmD +, writes (15 April 2010):
 All you can really do is be there for your older sister. Your OTHER sister will have feelings for this guy so if you confront them you risk damaging your relationship with your other sister.
Your older sister must be the one who confronts her husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2010): Start by accepting that these are your sisters, and you love them both no matter what. I think you have a moral obligation to support the older sis. But the key there is SUPPORT. You don't need to confront the cheaters yourself, just help you sis get the courage to do so herself. because this is the dreaded family affair, it is best not to make a big scene with the enitre family (like at a dinner etc). This should be a little private at least.
Is the other sister married? Maybe your older sis could look to the other sis's spouse for support in confrontation? However she does it, it needs to be done. She cannot let herself be victimized, even my her own sister. Now I could say all sorts of things about the cheater sis, but that won't help anything here, so you shouldn't either. Even if your older sis doesn't ask to choose "sides" it will sort of happen anyway. Pick your moral ground and stay there. Good luck to you and your older sis. I hope you can restructure some sort of familial bond through this.
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