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writes: Continuation,I have questioned before for help about my sister and her boyfriend breaking up after six years. This is a continuation of the story.Well for the past 2 years my sister has been working at a horse farm during the summer between university. Her now ex wasn't so fond of the place. A lot of the workers drank all day and were pretty much drunk all day. And then there was the horse trainers, who hit on my sister a lot while she was still dating her ex. Her co-workers, including bosses, last year almost encouraged her to do hard drugs at staff parties, but her ex stopped that before it started. And now her bosses or glue best friend of 40 some years old while my sister is 20, gave her advice to break up with her boyfriend and date the riders that have been hitting on her.I have met these people and now they are the rough type people. I am very worried something will very bad happen to my sister with the riders (horse trainers) or even at the job site. She really just doesn't realise that some guys are after one thing, sex and then will leave and just take on that experience as and notch in the belt.At times before the break up, she would stay at the bosses house when they had a party and drank. But now they have become more frequent.My mom doesn't think she can do anything because my sister is 20. I also know that if you do something it can push her to do something stupid or just sitting in the sideline can accomplish the same thing. So what do you do? She hasn't been herself lately. I don't want my sister hurt.Now my sister has confronted me and told me to break up with my boyfriend as she believes what she did was right so i should follow. The only REAL reason why she dumped her boyfriend was to sleep with other guys. I know she needs help, serious help before she does something real stupid or her ex moves on. PLEASE help
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (18 July 2006):
chunky_monkey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBasicly that, but honestly im very worried about her. I don't want her to get hurt.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (18 July 2006):
chunky_monkey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbothering me, not boring me
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (17 July 2006):
chunky_monkey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionObivously not, but the fact that she even said that is boring me.
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reader, chunky_monkey +, writes (17 July 2006):
chunky_monkey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIs anyone reading the fact that she told me to break up with my boyfriend because she thinks what she is doing is right
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2006): The best thing you can do is talk with your sister. Don't point fingers if you don't want to push her away. I have four sisters of my own, so I know that important issues have to be brought up gently, in a non-accusatory way. Don't tell her that she is making mistakes, or that the riders are bad people. That will only make her defensive and possibly make the situation worse. You need to find out why she finds the idea of these riders so intriguing, why she broke up with her boyfriend, and why she has been behaving differently. Ask questions. It will get her thinking about the choices she's making. I don't know how close you and your sister are, but as far as me and my sisters go, there isn't enough screaming and yelling at each other in the world that could happen to make us stop being sisters and confiding in each other. Maybe after she opens up to you a little bit, you could suggest that you don't think what she's doing is such a good idea. You know this is a delicate situation, but it needs to be addressed. So, address it delicately. She's your sister, she'll listen to what you have to say, even if she doesn't right away. She knows you have her best interests at heart.
I wish you the best of luck with this very tricky situation. I hope everything works out okay in the end. Stay strong!
~RJGirl
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