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My sister and I just don't get along!

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Question - (31 January 2011) 3 Answers - (Newest, 5 February 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, *MYK writes:

Ugh. So much stuff has been going on. And I don't think I can handle it anymore. All that therapy I was going to; stopped. And stuff just didn't get better. Even with the Therapy.

So Jan 20th, I graduated. Very happy about that. And My Birthday just came on the 29th. This was all great. But those were the only days I've enjoyed.

My sister and I haven't gotten any better. I'm at the point where, I don't give a **** about her. Everything she does is FAKE. She's been being nice to EVERYONE, except me. She Gives me this attitude 24/7. And I'm not even doing anything to her. I haven't been talking to her or anything! Minding my business. She only talks to me nice when she wants something. I'm just really fed up. I hate seeing her. I hate hearing here. I hate her talking to me. And I HATE her attitude.

She has this thing she does, when I try to talk to her. I not a person who can express themselves well without tripping over their words. I'm better at writing them out. (I've tried to write letters to her telling her how I feel. She doesn't read them. She throws them out. And When She does read it, it's kinda like she never read it, she doesn't care.) So When I try to explain myself, she always give me that "You are a retard" look. And it REALLY PISSES ME OFF. There is SO Much more stuff she does.

I really just wanna get out of here now. I'm so sick of it here. I'm looking for a new Job, seeing how My school internship ended. I want to move, SO BADLY. But I dunno where to start and what I need. This is probably Pushing it, but, I kinda wanna get out of the States. My boyfriend lives in the Netherlands, and I talk to him every day. He gets really upset when he sees me upset, and tries his best to cheer me up. I would love to move near him. He said he lives near a city, and I like that. But his Family is in this country-like area, and he wants to be close to them. But it's not far away from the city. I just wanna be near him and away from My family. It's just hasn't been a great life with them. Always hurting me.

I dunno where to start. And I dunno what I need to make this happen. God. I just wanna tell you EVERYTHING she has done, but. What's the point? I don't wanna get myself upset right now.

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A female reader, TMYK United States +, writes (5 February 2011):

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TMYK agony auntShe is my guardian. Both our fathers are not in our life. We have the same mom, but she's not in our life. We've been doing fine, Until she got this new boyfriend. She acts so different now. He's putting in her head that we are no good and stuff. Like, he tried to hurt brother once, and he was hurting my sister once. and I tried to help stop him those both times. And it's like it was nothing. And the other day, she told me she's kicking me out. And I didn't even do anything. She came to me saying that. And she's sticking with it. So yeah. I need to know something NOW.

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A male reader, Leodjoneluv United States +, writes (3 February 2011):

Leodjoneluv agony auntmy father use to tell me and my brother to treat each other just like we treated our friends because we treat our friends better than we treat each other. I have 7 brothers and I have not spoken to 5 of them between 5 and 8 years. Sometimes you have to separate from family to grow and have peace in your life.

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (1 February 2011):

Abella agony auntYou would be surprised if you knew how many families have this sibling discord going on. Just because a person is your sibling does not ensure that they are going to be your best friend. It's lovely for the families where this happen. But in many families it never will happen.

So butter would not melt in her mouth. But you know the real story? You know that behind closed doors, to you, she is mean, manipulative and not your friend?

How is she with her father and mother? Do you have the same or different biological parent on both sides? Do they see through her? Or ar they oblivious to her manipulations?

If she is very mean to you be aware that she may also try to bad mouth you to your parent/s behind your back. And that she may do the same to your friends.

Try to get some support from your parent/s about this.

Ask them what can be done and why it hurts you so much.

If you feel so very unsupported still then yes, a shift away may be just what you need.

Remember you are NOT the names she calls you.

I am not in any doubt that she has probably done some terrible things

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